As a 35 year old woman, I have asked everyone from my Facebook feed, male friends, ex boyfriends, and relatives; and as varied as the answers, most would agree that I'm a great person, that just hasn't found the ‘One’. Leaving me baffled, I interestingly enough referred to old cliches; "The bigger the catch, the harder it is to get caught!" A cool, but none the less frustrating thought. With serious self examination, and a little social media stalking of the couples that I love, allowed me to come to this realization.

All the couple I searched, each partner lived full and exciting lives, most importantly, separately. The realest examples were of those that have lived their life’s accomplishments. For some, our life were made to be so rich, that we must live that part of self discovery before having to share your experiences with another. It's as if you would be cheating yourself out of life before love can come in and as it sometime does, stop everything, especially for the passionate ones. Although this thought doesn't take away from those that found love early in life, or found their stride in their personal life once they met their partner. Personally applying this to my life, I have become obnoxiously aware of how little I have worked on my own personal life!

For example, hobbies. I once had hobbies, outside of work. I was very fortunate to love what I did for a living, so much so I was willing to give my life, which I did for over 10 years. My career was life and my hobby was work, I completely lost sight of myself.

Now in a new career, and phase of life I am realizing that I lost the best part of me, the exciting, enticing, adventurous, passionate side of me; instead I have been trying desperately to replace it with something else, and what's better than love?.

Now imagine, or maybe you don't have to, but a person without a purposeful personal passion, is just that, in a relationship. Sex shouldn't be the only place a person exudes their life's passion. Sounds familiar?. We've all either lived this experience or know of this with someone close to us.

Then there are many other unnatural lengths one will go to, just to avoid what is greatly needed to attract the right person / the one. This belief that someone will complete me, when this act can attract the worst people or situations to you; to push away a really good man and live with regret of what could have been, or welcome hobo with good dick into your home, is the question?... The quest for love has no time frame, but chances are if you haven't fulfilled or are greatly in pursuit of your highest self, you may welcome someone temporary into your life for a lifetime.