not usually one to get involved in fandom drama but today i'm choosing violence bc the '2k12 leorai is incest' crowd really isn't taking the most fundamental aspect of adoptive families being families of choice to its full conclusion
(and before anyone tries to piss on the poor, i AM saying that adoptive families are real families, that's not what this is about)
bc in order for adoptive families to work, it can't just be a one-way street of someone choosing to be a parent to a child they didn't genetically contribute to. it ALSO has to be the child choosing to see that person as their parent rather than as someone who just happens to help take care of them. likewise, it's about choosing to see any other children in that home as siblings rather than as just people they live with - and that applies regardless of how old someone is when they join a family.
i will admit that being raised together from a young age will make it feel more like a default than a true deliberate choice to consider the people around you as family - like the turtle boys considering each other brothers when who knows if they came from the same clutch - but as long as the kid gets told the truth eventually, they WILL end up having to face that decision.
some will find it easy to make; some won't. some will decide that yes, this family is their family, and no one can/should tell them different - and some will decide that this isn't their family, it was just a place they were raised in and people they were raised around.
mikey, after learning about his adoptive dad's bio kid, chose to see karai as his sister. donnie and raph never really gave a strong hint either way. leo, on the other hand, very clearly chose to see karai as a love interest rather than a sister, which is a completely valid decision as well.
bc the ability to say no is what MAKES something a choice in the first place - so if the incest-criers really wanted to defend adoptive families, they'd respect the turtles having made different choices about what kind of relationship they want with karai.












