#lca writes

As I was sitting at a church cafe, I watched as the younger teens went inside the main hall, they all have friends, they were all laughing and having fun. And I can’t help but miss my friends. I was like that too, I was also an active youth member, I also had friends in church that I feel really comfortable with. But now, at 21 I realized how much things have changed. 

Now, I’m always sitting alone in church services, too shy to enter youth services, I don’t have anyone I laugh and hang out with, I have a lot to say yet no one is here to listen, I want to ask them for prayers for certain things but no one is there. I want to spend my time with someone even for just a day, but it’s either they’re busy or we just haven’t spoken for a long time.

I know that the walk as a Christian shouldn’t be done alone, that we must have our support group to pray and correct us. And I am still trying to bring myself into this new chapter. I am still trying to figure out how to make new friends and how to build lasting relationships. And at the same time, I am trying to really be disciplined and keep my fire for God burning.

And I hope through this, we’d spread light and warmth around us.

So, I just think that it is not really right telling men who are crying things like, “Oh, that’s so cute you have a feminine side!” That, for me, is a big no no. Crying, showing your emotions, may it be sad or happy ones, is not a form of being in touch of your feminine side, it’s being in touch with your human side. Let’s not confuse emotions to being feminine, it’s just that we are human. It is normal for us to feel things.

So men, don’t be afraid to cry or shout for joy. It doesn’t make you less of a man, if anything, it makes you more of a man.

Yours truly,