Before I even start this rant, I’m gonna say right now that I’m a straight white cis male and an avid feminist and I think girls are super awesome, and if you think this rant belittles anybody at all then you really haven’t read it properly, or if you’re sure you’re right then tell me. But don’t yell at me or flip at me because I’m really sad and it might trigger me and I might cry.
You know there’s a lot of this opposition to men adding on un-needed comments onto posts about women, and I really do agree with that and respect that and I don’t want to intrude (I’m a guy).
But every once in a while, especially for motivational posts, I really need guys to be included. I was really sad a couple of days ago - the lowest I’ve been in a while - and I saw the post saying that girls who are still learning to love themselves should stay patient and that they’re strong goddesses.
And it actually hurt me for once, because just at that moment I felt like maybe I didn’t deserve to be happy or to love myself cause I’m a guy. I had to reblog it and add my own comment to include everybody (which nobody would reblog anyway cause I’m not Tumblr famous), but I felt bad afterwards cause I knew I’d be judged by somebody because that’s what Tumblr’s like.
I’m a good person and I know that, when I’m not low and depressed. I know I deserve goodness and kindness and love and I deserve to be happy in life. But when I’m low I can’t see that, and sometimes things like this make me feel worse.
In no way do I want to discredit girls’ problems (not to mention all you non-binary folk) and I hope you people feel okay in yourselves because I know how hard it can be. I’ve also been seeing male-oriented motivational posts arising more often now which is great, and keep up the good work.
I just want to say: as long as you don’t take men’s bullshit, be gentle and supportive to guys as well as the other marginalised groups. Make sure the people who need protecting are protected, but make sure to look to those who need less protection as well - some of us feel just as broken as you.
Sometimes we all could do with a hug and kind words, including a lot of men.
(P.S: please don’t yell at me it triggers me and I’ll probably cry)
