i want to send so, so much love to dominants who've had to grapple with the fear of their desires being frightening or immoral or disgusting or inconvenient. doms with ocd, doms who love sadistic frightening kink, doms who feel guilt about their desires, doms who don't fit the image of what a dom "should be like". doms who are afraid to be open about what they truly want and force themselves into a softer mold or force themselves to never say no in order to please someone or seem non-threatening. to any dominant who's ever struggled with their sexuality, i love you all so incredibly much
there's nothing wrong with you, you're not broken or weird or disgusting and what you desire in kink isn't something you're going to harmfully enact in real life, i promise. it's okay to sincerely want to do something deeply immoral to someone in the boundaries of play, it's incredibly natural. don't listen to people who say that things like cnc kink are only ok if the dom isn't really into the immoral acts performed, you deserve to participate in kink where your love for dominance is respected and appreciated even when your desires are sadistic or scary.
you do not have to perform a strong persona, you can be soft and small and vulnerable and still be respected as a dominant, i promise. you absolutely deserve aftercare, you deserve to feel safe and loved and vulnerable and cared for, you don't have to be the one who does the caring all the time. you deserve to be open and genuine about your personality and find people who respect you for that and don't shame you for not fitting their image. you are a person and deserve to be treated as such.
there are many people who are into what you're into and you don't have to tolerate sex which disregards your personhood or your desires or treats you like a means to an end. you have every right to say no. you have every right to have the sex and participate in the kink that you actually want free from shame with people who genuinely respect you and your needs. there's always going to be someone out there for you if you want that, i promise. you are not disgusting. you are loved. π§‘