Long Distance, Tight Leash
I read a ‘tumblr.’ reblog recently, listing a hundred or so ways to keep a submissive obedient in a long distance relationship. Things like:
Give them a limit of minutes per hour in the bathroom.
Make them take pictures of themselves and then share them with your Dom friends.
Order them to wear a plug every night, or while at work, or while shopping.
I had to stop reading after about half way.
Here are some ways that I keep my beautiful sprite close. They are consensual, present no health risks, they do not degrade or unnecessarily humiliate my submissive, and they are (above all) fun. (P.s. This is not an Apple ad, but we *love* Apple technology as it fits our way of being.)
Location Control. I like to keep my sprite close and know where she is, and she desires to be seen. Even when in meetings or at work she has her iPhone with her at all times and I can pinpoint her location, to a range of 10 metres, using FindMyFriends. The corollary is that she can see Me, unless I hide (which I choose not to). If she were to hide, she would be in trouble, but she is a good girl.
FaceTime Audio. Sprite sometimes has difficulty sleeping, and as she is usually on Audio when asleep, I may hear her call out. I can then un-mute her, and either “shhhhh…” her back to sleep or comfort her. Of course, we are on Audio for most of the day, and I expect her to be ready when I reach out, unless she is engaged in agreed activity (such as excelling at her job, or training at karate).
Computer Control. If her computer is on, I can log into it with my unique password. I can browse and amend (or delete) all her files and photos, send e-mails from her accounts, print out, play music, browse her Facebook, dial into FaceTime and activate her Webcam. (We are working on multiple ‘always on’ webcams, so I can see her when at home.)
FaceTime/Skype. Since we sorted sprite’s broadband, we have all sorts of fun on FaceTime. However, you would not believe how precious this is to us, as we spent time building trust before I allowed this stage. Prior to this we relied on blogs and PhotoMessaging. These days, however, I die a little on the inside if I can’t see her face light up when we talk.
“Direction of Travel”. This is the big one. sprite knows what I want for her, from her. Stay safe, eat healthily, be the best she can be, be polite, answer to no-one but me, be modest in company, beat the hell out of the opposition, stay close. Any time she makes decisions that cannot be deferred and I am not available to consult, she refers to Direction of Travel. Then she comes to me for confirmation afterwards, and we talk. Is she informed if she makes a false step? Absolutely. So: every decision is a submission of will because she has to know what I would choose.
I keep my girl on a very tight leash.
