#justnarithings

r.e.t.a.r.d:  a term of endearment used esp for lions and puppies, generally for hapless and adorable animals; in no way demeaning towards people with disabilities; literal meaning: slower than average development of skills, such as ball-throwing. Widely used as insult by assholes.

Nari: *throws ball*

Ball: *falls on Nari’s head*

Nari: Fuck I am retarded.

Nari’s friend who has a physical disability and had the word retarded used at them as an insult many many times by other people who were not Nari and also out of Nari’s earshot because I would have fucked them up: Yo you mind Nari I fucking hate that word. It offends me.

Nari: Sorry bro. *doesn’t use word around that friend anymore, in fact tries to keep it to conversation with another friend who she explicitly knows is not offended by it; moves on with life quite unoppressed and uncensored, cos there are other words*

Coooonteeeeeext y’all. Context is key. There are far more neutral words that can nonetheless be used to hurt.

Such as:

Asshole #1: *shouted towards fans of opposing football team/or politician they disagree with* JEW!!!!

compared with

Friend of Nari’s (another one so popular wow): JEW!!!

Nari: HELP IT’S A GERMAN :D *hugs*

or

Classmate: I didn’t know Nari was a Jew.

Nari: *is a ninja Jew*

or, y’know: Gay. “I’m gay”: life-affirming, positive, brave, cool etc. “You’re gay.” - offensive?

Nari: *is a lesbian heading into a lesbian bar* Whooooo lesbians! :D

Lesbians: Weirdo. oO

Nari: *meant to think that not shout it* laalaalaa *sneaks into a corner to lurk*

vs.

Asshole #2: *makes absolutely disgusting sound on train* Heeeeeeey baby.

Nari: No, mate. Just no. You? Bark? Wrong tree? Also being into babies is gross go away perv.

Asshole #2: LESBIAN!!

vs.

Asshole #3: *without even the paper-thin excuse of striking up a conversation shouting after a Nari in her lesbianest dyke gear who’s holding hands with her even more dykey looking date* LESBIANS!!

Nari: oh my god fuck OFF 

Asshole #3: heeeeey try something new babe

Nari: suuure if you go an suck your other buddy’s dick c’mon broaden your horizons motherfucker *has written fucking fanfic about that very scenario lol* look at that hobo over there sure he wants a blowjob go suck a big fat smelly cock and while you’re at it try putting a few fingers up your ass AM I MAKING YOU UNCOMFORTABLE MOTHERFU...

Nari’s Dykey friend: omg nari can we go ur embarrassing

Nari: HE’S EMBARRASSING AND HIS MOM WOULD BE EMBARRASSED I WILL NOT BE INSULTED WITH IMPUNITY 

Asshole #3: *hopefully won’t get a boner for the rest of the evening thinking about hobo cock*

vs.

Nari: *is being a complete scatterbrain while paying her bill at a restaurant os the waitress is pretty*

Nari’s friends: *having waited after they left the bar cos unlike Nari hey have socia skillz* LESBIAAAAN.

Nari: lol busted.

See a pattern there?

Also, tumblr savior and xkit blacklist are a thing. 

BROBLEM

BROBLEM

this is the name of my one-person-support-group now kbye