#isfjs

I’m not an expert on other types so this is gonna be based on my two ISFJ friends and how I’ve seen them behave. 

ISFJs are very pacific and nice people. They won’t insult you or refuse to talk to you (they won’t look for it either or be too engaged in a conversation), they’ll just don’t care about you and maybe observe you and talk behind your back with their closest friends. I think ENTPs come out as too selfish, relativist and brutally honest for ISFJs. They don’t agree with our “ethic” (how we usually put ourselves first or our attitude of “the end justifies the means”), and the way we seem not to see any bad in it. Also, as very conciliatory and sensitive people, they think we’re often too harsh. I don’t think an ISFJ would hate an ENTP unless they’ve done something terrible to them (they don’t hate too many people) but those misunderstandings could make it impossible for them to trust us, so they would not get very close to us.

However, ISFJs value loyalty and often admire that sense of honesty and spirit that we have, even if they don’t agree with some of our traits. They see further and they appreciate our good things. If you have an ISFJ friend, you know they’ll never fail you. If they like you they care a lot, asking you questions about your life and how you’re doing, trying to make sure that they’re doing all that’s in their hands to make your life better. I think they see us as crazy beings that attract their curiosity and surprise them, they find us funny. 

I hope this helps! 

When first meeting someone, it is not difficult for the ESFJ to get to know the person better. ISFJs make friends easily as well, but may be more standoffish or quiet at first. 

ESFJs are more likely to host a big get-together whereas ISFJs are more likely to cater to others’ needs at an event. ESFJs like to control how things will benefit everyone where ISFJs will help others working with what it is already going on. ISFJs certainly host as well, but they are more likely to only invite a select few close friends where ESFJs will invite a lot of friends, even some that are not necessarily in their inner circle. 

When a conflict arises, ESFJs are more likely state their stance on the matter where an ISFJ is usually more passive aggressive or keep their anger or hurt feelings to themselves. Although ESFJs are more likely to let the other party know what is going on, neither type enjoys conflict. 

ISFJs are more likely out of the two to ignore their own personal needs to better suit the interests of others. They are also more likely out of the two to have their kindness taken advantage of. 

Under stress, an ISFJ’s inferior Ne may see all new possibilities in a negative, often exaggerated light. This can give them a lot of anxiety. They can become scattered. This may be why they are usually described as not being as open to change. Read more on ISFJ’s inferior function here.