i did a couple of more of those charts of random characters (both ohot iroj and fallout iroj is in here. they are very interesting.)
the gray ones are what he would actually... feel like he needs or appreciates the most if he were..not incredibly damaged and and a fuck up. and with friendship especially he only realizes how badly he needs his one friend in the whole world AFTER he lets everyone think he's killed himself and is too ashamed to go to him for help.
the intimacy thing goes with raw feel good sex vs meaningful romantic sex
fallout iroj considers the enclave and his brothers and sisters in arms his family. and his friends. and he gives them  the same high high respect as he expects out of them. he has actual emotions in fallout except he's just a scary genocidal extremist motherfucker who was probably a really good enclave soldier. A Good. Enclave. soldier. kinda loses his mind when he gets stuck out in the wastes with the freaks and realizes he's contaminated now
he is interesting because he is kind, open minded, patient and observant but rarely makes an overt attempt to fit in or belong... he would not be happiest as a drifter but i think he could survive that way, but with the crew he likes to be involved with them in important but subtle ways, which probably plays into his role as a doctor- he gets to share so many private conversations and details with people behind a closed door, thats probably enough intimacy and trust that he needs- but he also has his casual relationships with people like silvio where someone else might be surprised to hear about how often they chat each other up if they pass each other by
that has to do with the belongingness part- vs the friendship part- friendship and being available to the people he cares about is important to him. now family... i get the feeling hes probably a little jaded on family matters because of his own homelife, but he is in fact dedicated to his mothers, even if it is sort of an obligation type thing. as he gets older i think he appreciates their efforts more...but also sees their flaws in a harsher, mature way, as he encounters things in his life that reflect their position and how many options are open to him that he could take versus what they did
he is also the only here that gives a shit about growth and that is because he is both very self-aware and does not have his head up his ass. i think hes always looking to improve himself. he's a. GOOD GUY
