yeah.. i've already seen some stuff floating around in the fandom that's very insensitive and borders on misogynistic too. like, people can absolutely hate the carlos/iris storyline, but there's no reason to be ableist or misogynistic about it. i'm very afraid this is going to turn into yet another instance of fans of an mlm ship treating a woman terribly for "interfering". there's still so much we don't know, and i'm prepared to be wrong if she does turn out to have malicious intentions, but we don't know anything yet and some of the conclusions i've seen people jump to are a little upsetting already.
For sure! Both the misogyny and ablism would be soooo easy to fall into with this plot, and I'm trying not to judge before I see, but using Iris as an obstacle in two people's love story just screams bad move. But there are ways it could be okay, and she might be a concerned friend who wants to get to know TK and doesn't want to stand between them. Although, I will say what we know so far does lean towards Iris being a problem in the wedding coming to be. But we shall see, and no matter what happens, I'm not going to hate on Iris because I totally agree on not treating the woman terribly (unless she's actually a bad woman, lol, which Iris is not) because that does not sit right with me.