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Posted @withrepost • @seerutkchawla Do the opposite of these & do not listen to people who encourage self-absorption. It’s not helping you. #inthetrencheswithyou https://www.instagram.com/p/Cmc5bJ6OZI-/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Repost from @seerutkchawla • "So what you're saying is" is an assumption that has nothing to do with what was said.⁣ ⁣ "If you like mangoes you hate oranges" this is a false dichotomy that assumes if you like one thing you must hate the other, it's a logical fallacy.⁣ ⁣ "You failed to mention"- yes I also failed to mention the birds in the amazonian rain forest because they're not relevant to the point I'm making.⁣ ⁣ "Educate yourself" perhaps they did educate themselves rigorously and that's the conclusion they reached. ⁣ ⁣ This is a really ineffective, rude, and unproductive way to communicate. And honestly, I don't think good faith communication is the goal in these instances. The goal is to let off some internal dysregulation and take it out on the other person, perhaps shame or hurt them, and to join into the culture of perpetual internet us vs. them conflict. ⁣ ⁣ If you want to find problematic people, look in the mirror, because every one of us is problematic, imperfect and fallible.⁣ ⁣ We're done with this energy. Communicate properly if you want people to engage with you. #inthetrencheswithyou https://www.instagram.com/p/CL-AvOclkCSQRoIk0ikFxGE7W3AA-hzzTg6aEc0/?igshid=4vkbwbg14yxe

Reposted from @somaticexperiencingint Repost from @seerutkchawla • Emotional regulation means being able to have a difficult or distressing emotion and being able to have some control over your response. This is something that you build up over time, and it's very achievable, just stick with it.⁣ ⁣ 1. Name it. "I am suddenly feeling really frustrated/angry/hopeless/upset'.⁣ 2. Accept that it IS happening, and don't fight it. Accepting something does not mean you're happy about it, you're just accepting reality. ⁣ When you stop fighting it, immediately you notice a release of some stress/tension.⁣ 3. Now that you have named it & accepted it, breathe (literally), it will help ground you. Pause, you don't have to react or do something when you're upset- this is really important. The more you practice delaying a response the better you get at not feeling out of control when you have a big emotion. Start small, pause for one minute. ⁣ 4. When you're in the stress response it's hard to think clearly, so don't force it. Instead, soothe yourself. Put on your favourite show, use aromatherapy, have a hot shower, use a weighted blanket- whatever works for you.⁣ 5. When you feel a bit calmer, gently approach that big feeling with curiosity, compassion and honesty.What was happening?⁣ 6. Let it run it's course, and remember it's a temporary state. It feels big and scary when you're in it, but the more you practice the better you will get at it. ⁣ ⁣ We think just because something feels big and distressing we can't survive it or handle it, we can. This is often why we act out in these moments, it's an attempt at making it go away. What this does though is create a patterned response, meaning: the more you act out, the more you will act out. The more you practice allowing it, pausing, breathing, the more you will be able to do that. It doesn't have to be perfect, not practising one time doesn't wash away all the good work you have already done. You can do this. AND, this tool is not a substitute for seeing a therapist if you need to. Safety first. #inthetrencheswithyou - # #quotes #kindness #gratitude #traumahealing #resiliency #therapists #traumainformed #ptsd #soma https://www.instagram.com/p/CHgCoc3Bd9q/?igshid=5yp7vqthn97p

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(Happy #writersclockout everyday is another chance to shift perspectives towards what we need them to be. Your life and experiencee is all one big social experiment and once you experience enough.. gain true validated learning.. than you either pivot your life and perspective or persevere. Create a quality growth feedback loop based on your hard forged soulmind findings Repost @33glamb _horizon ・・・ Read ⤵️ @seerutkchawla @download.ins --- Human beings are not a blank slate, we are products of evolution. There are certain drives that are indisputably inherent, such as the drive to self-actualize. Meaning and purpose are important metrics, one of the reasons is that they make you feel a hell of a lot better about your life, and yourself.⁣ ⁣ If you distill is down to its bare bones, self-esteem comes from making decisions & choices you can respect. It is also learning to delay gratifying your present self (within reason) to serve your future self well.⁣ ⁣ Failure is an inevitable and inescapable part of life, an intelligent way to approach failure is to use it as feedback. Get better. Try again. These tie into discipline – which is not living like a monk in a monastery – it is doing the things you say you are doing to do. Start small, build it up. Learn that you can actually rely on yourself. That’s a powerful feedback loop.⁣ ⁣ Conscious competence is being good at something and understanding the mechanisms that allow that. I think conscious competence is also an awareness of the limits of your competency – especially in my field, this is this crucial.⁣ ⁣ The most important part of this is brutal honesty with yourself, acquainting yourself with your darkness, your capacity for harm, and your own personal brand of douchery. It’s critical to have acute awareness of this. One pretty obvious reason is so that you don’t unconsciously enact these and wreak havoc.⁣ ⁣. Hey friends 👬 #inthetrencheswithyou *cont in comments https://www.instagram.com/p/B8S3oklgpRb/?igshid=132o9an5vlpby

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