#internetdiscourse

To all the men who get angry when women say they'd rather be stuck in the woods with a bear than a random man:

I have a question.

Since when did you care this much about women's safety?

Because the thing that always confuses me is that the question isn't who would YOU rather be stuck with? It's who Iwould rather be stuck with.

Why does my answer make you so angry?

If I say I'd rather risk getting mauled by a bear than risk whatever a strange man might do to me, why does that offend you personally? Why are you taking my assessment of my own safety as a personal attack?

The entire conversation is women explaining why they feel unsafe, and somehow the response always becomes, "But that's unfair to Men."

Interesting.

Anyway, as I finished typing this, I realized the target audience for this post probably doesn't use Tumblr.

The online world can be toxic. While many of us actively try to make the internet a fun, informative and safe place for everyone to enjoy, there are plenty of bad actors on the internet who actively try to spread misinformation and make life hard for people who they deem to be “different.”

The popular way to deal with trolls is to ignore them. “Don’t feed the trolls” people suggest. I suggest that we do feed the trolls and give them more than they can chew. There are a few popular trolling tactics.

One thing trolls do is they mischaracterize your argument to create an argument that they’re comfortable with that tends to have nothing to do with whatever you’re trying to convey. DO NOT ALLOW THEM TO DO THIS! When a troll ignores your argument and makes up your argument to fit their needs, take a step back and reiterate your original argument and insist that they respond to that before you move any further. If you’ve found that you’re several comments deep before you realized they’ve done this, that’s okay. Repeat back each point that was made that lead you down the rhetorical path you’re on to get back to YOUR argument instead of theirs.

Another troll tactic is called “sealioning.” Sealinoning is when your argument opponent demands evidence for your argument under the pretense of good faith but ignores every piece of evidence you provide. Again, when they do this, they tend to steer the argument where they want it to go so they’re more comfortable. When you realize they’re doing this, point it out and ask why they haven’t acknowledged the evidence you provided that they previously demanded.

I want to point out one more tactic, which is the vale of civility. The goal of the troll is to make you angry and talk you into a rhetorical corner so they can have their laughs and feel superior. Many people think that we should be taking the high road and never insult our opponent. I do not believe this is the correct course of action. This is the internet and it can be difficult enough to tell when someone you’re speaking with is being genuine. When it’s clear that your opponent is simply trolling and has no real interest in your argument, don’t hesitate to tell them to go fuck themselves and then on only respond with bad language and insults. They usually will try even harder to pretend that they’re interested in a debate, but I promise you that they are not. I would suggest giving them a chance, maybe a few back and fourths to be sure that they’re really trolling. But once it’s apparent, let them have it and don’t hold back.