#inner bonding

Below is a very brief summary of the Six Steps of Inner Bonding.

Nobody else can do for us what we have to do for ourselves. If we’re being honest, most of us harbor the hope that someone else will come and do the work of making us feel good or safe or loved. One of the sad but true things about life is that if we didn’t get what we wanted and needed from our parents, it is too late as adults to get it from outside of ourselves. As adults, we can get all the love in the world from outside of ourselves and all it does is make us feel good for the moment, as does any addiction. As long as we continue to treat ourselves in unloving ways we will continue to feel unworthy or unlovable, no matter how much outside love we get. We have to give ourselves the love first, before any outside love can even come in in any permanent way. Outside love cannot come into a closed heart, and unless we are open to learning and loving within, our heart is closed and other’s love is just a temporary drug.