#indigosadvice

So I grew up really religious and now that I'm an adult I would like to experiment with myself (if you catch my drift) but I don't really know where to start so do you have any advice for ya girl

Sorry if this is a weird or uncomfortable question plz don't feel obligated to answer

hi!!

i grew up super religious as well so it's def something i have experience in. it's not a weird question at all! we're wired to want pleasure and sex as human beings and it is beautiful between consenting adults and self-pleasure.

ethical sources

Ersties is an ethical european site based on women's pleasure- they genuinely care about their models, genuine orgasms, and consent

Bellesa makes toys (i need to try one) and porn for women, as well as a free podcast that is hot as fuck.

Four Chambered Heart is a more artistic site, i did research for this question and oh my god the stills are breathtaking

Make Love, Not Porn is based on real couples if studio lights aren't your thing

self exploration

have fun!!! it doesn't have to be perfectly sexy, you don't even have to orgasm. just let go in that moment.

take it slow. explore erogenous zones and even touch yourself over underwear if it feels too overwhelming. i literally still keep most of my clothes on lol

make it cute if you want! clean your room, put on cute underwear, light a candle to help you relax a bit more.

i haven't tried actual toys, but they can be really helpful if you struggle climaxing or want to spice it up

benefits

for me, it helps a lot with my confidence. i know how to make myself cum and i don't need anyone to do it for me. it's kind of self-care.

stress and pain relief

a good orgasm is better than any sleep medication

some studies show it can even boost your immune system