#incantavs

This whole “he’s put in so much effort” 👀 where? Where???!? He’s doing the bare minimum anyone in a relationship should and would do. What effort. Like, this dude a fuck boi (y’all forget the wall of conquests) in a secret relationship with a girl he been pinning for a year (he does not deserve applause for that shit -my gods the low bar-). Off course he’s going to treat her well and have to work to gain her trust and prove he’s more than a fuck boi (and she’s not just a momentary distraction) and worth the possibility of her destroying her built friendships ( hello Silvia and la matte). Effort, he’s doing what he should and what anyone who wants to develop a healthy, happy, functioning relationship does.

Look, kisses and biscuits are cute and everything, but so is emotional connection (What Ele craves). Girl did not bring up his dad and brother just to be cruel and petty (passive aggressive yes). Obviously it still hurts her that he is unwilling or unable to be vulnerable, to open up to her (“I am sorry you can’t talk to me about...”). She’s let him in, in a way she hasn’t with friends and family (talking about her family and upbringing) and him...crickets. Effort is meaningless if it’s not the kind sook or wanted. He needs to put effort into talking to her. Twice he’s been given chances to let her in, in a way that counts to her (classroom make up and car) and twice he’s failed. Tell her about your mom, your absentee father, your predator brother (which could save her). How was your childhood Edo? What is your shoe size? What’s your favorite ice cream? Do you study? What do you do when you’re not with her?

My bb Ele is not flawless. I know there are changes she needs to make if she wants the relationship to progress and become the kind they both crave. But she’s done a lot in her own ways. She’s made strides and she too is trying. Considering what we know of her up bringing, her fears, insecurities, abdoment issues, how she folds into herself and keeps people arms length away...she’s come far in that she’s trying at this relationship. She tries to understand him (classroom bs), accept his wishes (car not ready to talk about bro) and give what she wishes to have (opening up about her family, crying in front of him).