Feeling connection when you haven't in a while is like a warm blanket when you're freezing or a perfect calm after a loud storm. But the opposite is also true. Feeling disconnected or feeling as if these connections have been cut can feel like being thrown out in the rain. It feels alienating and isolating. It makes you feel alone even if you're not.
There can be great sadness when an individual who once felt they had beautiful warm loving connections to people suddenly feels cut off without words or understanding. Sometimes if you sit in that disconnection and look for signs of connection you can find your way out. Unfortunately not everyone has easy access to meaningful connection. So when they get disconnected, they get lost in the cold empty darkness. And sometimes for so long they lose empathy for everyone. Including themselves.
This darkness becomes part of them eventually and pushes them into pushing destruction either on themselves or someone else in order to feel any connection even if it is a bad one. Even if it involves drugs or harming another. Sometimes we need to feel security in these sources so we obsess and hold tightly any source of connection to feeling more. To feeling those brief moments of warmth and connection again. But our need to feel secure in the small amount we are getting we don't often get a real constant stable connection or recognize it when we do.
Sometimes though, a connection so meaningful and personal can rewarm and relight the fires of warmth inside someone. This comes in many different forms for many different people. But for those who have been through it it doesn't always offer a permanent solution. From the cold we must build a foundation of self love, acceptance, awareness and accountability. We must be the ones to be the light to ourselves and our communities. We each have our own path, but we can still use each other's tools and learn from each other. Even at times uplift each other on the path or lend a hand. Our life and our path is ours to make though. We must realize we are not individuals in a community. We are a community of individuals. Whether we like it or not, those we interact with every day are just as complex and multifaceted as you are. So we have to learn to work for the benefit of all involved. Even if they don't like you. This should be done through understanding the individuals in the community with the help of data and a framework of understanding. Using data and measurement as a tool for understanding the truth, and understanding that the results are not truth itself.
