First off hi! Adore and appreciate your existence and help to others
Looking for tips of manifestation of letting go of a long toxic love
I spent years trying to manifest our union in the most loving way possibly but I think I’ve hit my wall and am very very tired of suffering and want to feel free happy and attract the love I deserve and need for my best self
⚠️ WARNING.... EXTREMELY LOOOOOOOONG RESPONSE AHEAD!‼️‼️‼️‼️
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Hi Anon and your compliment has made my entire existence better thank you so much from the bottom of my heart!🥺❤️❤️❤️
This one is a first for me I've never had an ask trying to get out of a relationship but I will try my best to come up with some tips and hopefully, it helps (⚠️ please note I Am not an expert here - I can only offer advice based on my personal opinion so please bear that in mind, none the less I will try to help)
First things first I am so sorry you’re going through a toxic relationship no one deserves that everyone deserves a relationship that makes them feel safe, loved, secured, cared for, etc. No one deserves toxicity in there life especially from their spouse or significant other, I’m glad you recognized the signs of the relationship being toxic and you’ve decided to end it now before matters gotten worse.
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My Tips (⚠️please remember this is only my personal opinion‼️):
1. I’d say detach as soon as possible from this current partner - This person could be a source of negative energy to you and this person could be an energy vampire (meaning their presences literally drains your energy which lowers your vibration). A better definition of an Energy Vampire: “ Energy vampires are people who — sometimes intentionally — drain your emotional energy. They feed on your willingness to listen and care for them, leaving you exhausted and overwhelmed. Energy vampires can be anywhere and anyone. They can be your spouse or your best friend.” SOURCE: How to Recognize and Respond to Energy Vampires at Home, Work, and More I recommend giving that a read it might help out with your situation.
2. Once you’ve let that person go take sometime for yourself - Take some time to rejuvenate your mind and body. Toxicity can do a lot to both our physical and mental health. “ Toxic relationships cause feelings of low self-worth, helplessness, fear, anxiety, depression, insecurity, paranoia, and even narcissism. “Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. “ SOURCE: Toxic Relationships: A Serious Threat To Mental Health. You’ve already mention how you’re tired of suffering so I definitely would say once you’re out of this take some time to be with you. Seek therapy if you have to, reach out to friends and family, do stuff that brings you joy, have self care days, Meditate, do breath work, etc.
3. Set boundaries - Learn from your past relationship. The Universe loves to teach us life lessons especially through the use of other people. Reflect on your past relationship; assess what went wrong, what you allowed, what you liked and disliked about the relationship, what you wished could have went better, etc. Just spend some time reflecting and set some boundaries for how you want to be treated. If you don’t know how to set boundaries here a link to this article. How to Set Boundaries in Your Relationships. Also see this article for some examples: 21 Examples Of Healthy Boundaries In Relationships
4. You may wanna do some shadow work before jumping back into relationships - What is shadow work? - Firstly we need to find out what is the shadow. “ The “shadow” is a concept first coined by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung that describes those aspects of the personality that we choose to reject and repress. For one reason or another, we all have parts of ourselves that we don’t like—or that we think society won’t like—so we push those parts down into our unconscious psyches. It is this collection of repressed aspects of our identity that Jung referred to as our shadow self. “ SOURCE: Carl Jung and the Shadow: The Ultimate Guide to the Human Dark Side. So Shadow work is basically confronting those parts of your repressed part of our identities and getting to know them. Shadow work is basically journaling about these repressed parts, bring them to the surface an confronting them (in a sense a form of scripting but you’re writing about stuff you normally wouldn’t tell anyone else - its highly personally. You’ll be surprised how much you can learn about yourself from this.) I’ve personally done shadow work and it has helped me a lot with getting to know my true self and healing some of my past traumas. I recommend watching these two videos - they’re ones I’ve personally watched when I discovered shadow work and they helped me a lot in the beginning.
💻 shadow work: how to start 🧚🏾♀️✨
💻 i did shadow work for 16 days, here’s what happened
I believe doing some shadow work will really help you both to learn more about yourself, aid with your trauma and even help with setting your boundaries and other aspects of your life. If you need Prompts (these are basically questions that you’ll journal about when doing your shadow work - you can simply make up your own or search for ‘shadow work prompts’ on Pinterest or google.)
5. Do it like Neville would - After you’ve detached from this person, done your self care and reflection. Do it like Neville would - Assume it into fact. Imagine yourself in your ideal relationship, imagine your ideal partner, imagine your perfect romance, give it all the feelings of reality. Imagine it and assume that relationship to be true with your new partner, believe it is true, feel it to be true, have faith that it is true. Then go on about your life. Relive your imaginal act as much as possible and get into the state of the wish fulfilled (believing that it is already done for you) then just go on about your day/life. Live in the end and persist in that assumption. If you can’t visualize or imagine it no worries, just make that assumption - make the assumption that you are now in your ideal relationship with your ideal partner, the same rules apply, believe in that assumption, have faith in it and feel that that assumption is already done for you, persist in that assumption. DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THE ‘HOW’, DO NOT WORRY ABOUT WHEN OR HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE OR IF ITS POSSIBLE, ETC. REMEMBER THE LAW ONLY WORKS IF YOU BELIEVE IT WORKS - SIMPLY BELIEVE YOUR IDEAL RELATIONSHIP INTO EXISTING. DO NOT WORRY ABOUT HOW LONG “EVERY SEED HAS ITS APPOINTED HOUR” - IT MAY HAPPEN TOMORROW OR IT MAY HAPPY NEXT YEAR, WHEN IT WILL COME NOBODY KNOWS, BUT “AN ASSUMPTIONS IF PERSISTED IN LONG ENOUGH WILL HARDEN INTO FACT” - Neville Goddard. All the law asks of you is to have FAITH and BELIVE in it. Your desire is yours for a reason - you already have it just believe you do! You may say oh what about my circumstances?? - Ignore the 3D. I will link this post HERE about a video a watched that really opened my eyes to ignoring the 3D hopefully it helps you. If you don’t know how to make an assumption or what it is see this ask HERE for more info on that.
6. Along with your new assumption you may use different manifesting techniques to help you (see my pinned post on this) - Now, you might use one technique or you can use as many as you want - its all up to you. Do what you’re comfortable with and do what feels right to you.
✨ Affirmations: You can affirm that you’re in your ideal relationship. Example: “I am deeply in love with the man/woman/etc. of my dreams right now.” “I am in the most wonderful, perfect, loving relationship right now, I am so grateful for my relationship.”, “My new partner treats me with the most respect and loves me so, I am grateful for my new partner.” Say them only when you feel the need to, I’d recommend saying them with meaning as well (say them as if your in that ideal relationship). Here’s why (⚠️and I do plan to make a more in depth post about this once I complete my research on it‼️) but basically the subconscious mind is the mind of FEELINGS. To make impressions on our subconscious mind we must do it with feeling. This is why you’ll always see people saying “FEELING IS THE SECRET”. Notice that when you’re sad/depressed (for example) and you say something like “ this is always happening to me” more bad things happen... this is because the subconscious mind pick up on that feeling of sadness/depression because its your dominant mood and your conscious mind is mostly focused on negative stuff. The subconscious mind will only out put what you’re mostly focused on and that will manifest. I know you wont be in a happy/positive mood 24/7 your human, I am human we have different emotions but when you’re in those moods try hard to make the new impression on your subconscious mind (Believe and feel those assumptions and affirmations into fact). ⚠️‼️‼️ IMPORTANT NOTE: this does not mean you can't affirm when you are down, sad or in neutral mood, you can. Affirm in any mood until it feels natural to you then you wont feel like you’re lying to yourself or being fake, etc. Also do not affirm 24/7 do it when you feel the need to - DO NOT FORCE IT!
‼️⚠️QUICK SIDE NOTE/ VERY IMPORTANT: when I say the subconscious mind is the mind of FEELINGS. I don’t mean feelings in the sense of that the subconscious mind knows what our mortal moods and feelings are (example: happy, sad, angry, etc - the subconscious mind can’t tell these things). What I mean is that the subconscious mind works with the ENERGY/VIBRATIONS/FREQUENCY FROM YOUR MORTAL FEELINGS/MOODS. If you’re giving off a consistent (negative) energy when you’re sad - another thing is the subconscious mind also loves repetition so when you consistently persist in negative energy, negativity will manifest (for example). This is so because you’re thought create your reality and whatever you focus on good or bad will manifest if those thoughts are persisted in with FEELING (your energy/vibration/frequency). ‼️⚠️
📝 Scripting: You can write down or imaginal acts or write down your affirmations in a journal. Write down exactly what you want, how you’d want it to play out in your ideal relationship and just like making an assumption, leave it alone - believe your script is true, have faith that what you written down will manifest into your world and it shall.
🎧 Subliminals - See this post HERE and HERE for brief explanations on what Subs are. They’re a ton of relationship subs on YouTube. Some will help you get over trauma, others will help you manifest your desired relationship, attract guys/girls/etc., attract your specific person. You just need to know what you’re looking for and do your research on subs and the sub maker you’re going to be using - see the posts I’ve link for more info.
They’re other methods so you can look up manifesting methods to find something that your comfortable with.
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Well that's it for me, I was heading to bed when I saw this and I had to respond immediately. Again I hope this helped - this is info that I thought off the top of my head just need so if I missed anything I’m sorry (its late and I am tired but I really wanted to repond before bed on this one). Remember this is all just my personal opinions, feel free to reach out again if you have any further questions or anything. Remeber you can always seek out another opinion if you didn’t find my response to be useful. I highly recommended seeking professional help on this one though, especially if this relationship has left you with mental and/or physical scars and trauma. Take care hun - I wish that you discover the most beautiful and purest love in the world and things get better for you soon. Thanks for reaching out and thank you for your compliment again, I hope I helped you in some way. Happy manifesting 💓💓💓
