so less than 2 weeks ago my wife texted me to ask for a divorce. Yes you heard that right she texted me. And then got mad when I tried to call her. After taking our car to Denver because she had to get away from her parents house (long story) that we lived in and she also needed some space. We'd both been having a hard year so far and also we had become codependent. The plan was to go to couples therapy.
So I let her take our car that is in my name across the country. I now have no car. I'm alone at the house with the cats. I'm having a hard time. She assured me she is not leaving me and I will meet her in Denver in October.
Fast forward maybe 4 days. I had just messaged her because I asked her mom to put money on her Cashapp because she had no gas money. I was doing it for her so she wouldn't have to talk to her mom. We are both unemployed at this point. Maybe a few hours after that she texts me, "I want a divorce and I want both cats." Naturally I freak out. I started begging, not my proudest moment but I was just so hurt and confused. She says a bunch of mean shit to me.
So 3 days later my parents come to help me gather all my things and leave. I had to separate all of our shared belongings without her. It was so awful and I'm so angry she made me do that alone. Never in a million years did I think if we ever broke up it would be like this. Now I'm living with my mom again at thirty with no idea what I'm going to do. My wife will not even have a conversation with me about it. We are communicating via email about logistics.
A bunch of other shit has happened since but basically I felt blindsided. She was messaging a bunch of people screenshots of our messages, apparently saying not nice things about me and making them uncomfortable. She flipped out on the friend she was supposed to stay with because she wanted her to have a plan to get professional help when she got there. Apparently having conditions for someone staying in her house rent free was bad of her. Multiple people contacted me to say she was posting everything on her Instagram, she had me blocked by then.
Anyway I don't post a lot of personal stuff on here but I'm going through such a hard time right now. My life was completely flipped upside down in a matter of days. Maybe some people have advice or just words of encouragement because I could really use some. But yeah I have a meeting with a divorce attorney on Monday.
