So, I just came back because I realized something big, but itâs also very important.
Do not be mean. Be direct, but respectful. Confrontation can be necessary, but avoid personal attacks or hate-filled comments. Do not punish or force anyone out of the fandom.
Sometimes people need space to reflect and grow. Change doesnât happen overnight, and itâs important to allow others the opportunity to understand their actions in their own time. If someone refuses to reflect on their actions, theyâll begin to question why theyâre avoiding it, and that questioning can be a powerful driver of change. Those who continue to avoid self-awareness will face natural consequences, such as a loss of trust and reputation.
But remember: accountability is not about making others feel destroyed. Itâs about helping them recognize the harm theyâve caused so they can choose to do better. Long-term change happens when people are given the space to make their own realizations. Iâm not here to do that work for them. The choice must be theirs.
So please, do this as humanly as possible. Iâm returning because Iâve provided the tools for real change. It would deeply concern me if they were used in ways that cause harm. Threatening others will not reflect well on you, even if they have bigoted views. Treat others with humanity, and you may find that humanity is what leads them to admit their own mistakes.
If someone cannot admit their own actions, then that is their issue to face, not yours to explain.
If you can extend this accountability to other fandoms, please do. We need more spaces that actively stand up for people of color and international viewers. If we keep this momentum going, the changes we begin with the Phandom might not be the only ones we affect. If other creators and their communities get involved in this kind of accountability system, others will likely follow suit. Change at the top will always be hard, and it might not happen overnight. But by giving them choices and holding them accountable for their actions, we can increase the chances of positive change, one step at a time.
If the response is positive and the creators show signs of willingness to engage, the situation can evolve naturally. But if the creators remain dismissive or continue harmful behaviour, then it might be appropriate to escalate the visibilityâthrough news outlets or other public platformsâto ensure the issue is addressed.
But please rememberâthis is about accountability, not condemnation. If this conversation ever gains more public attention, we canât control how the media or others might interpret it. Thatâs why itâs important to make your intentions clear: youâre not calling for anyone to be punished or harassed. What weâve been trying to do is bring harmful patterns to light, so that those responsible can reflect, grow, and be held accountableânot by force, but through the natural consequences of their actions, such as losing trust and reputation.
