#howtoenjoy

You know how it goes by now, follow the rules or don’t, guides are guides.

Let yourself deserve it. Allow peace with the happiness coming your way, the world or the people, or something else if you believe in such things as Cupid’s and Cthulhu’s want your happiness too. Everyone deserves to be happy. Maybe some people also need to make amends and pay debts or make apologies, but in the end, reaching a mutual happiness is what life is all about.

So the enjoying it, here’s how this goes:

1. A hand to hold, Thinking of whether you’re holding it right, or if your hands are sweaty or too big or too small all seem like big matter in the moment- but if you’re holding a hand, the hand is for holding. Do not think of what other hands the hand has held before yours, because now this hand is yours. Rub and move or sit and sink, there’s no wrong way when both love the hand they hold.

2. A celebration, Perhaps you didn’t shoot the winning goal, or push yourself out the womb without help, or put in the most effort possible- but in the end, you’ve come too far to dwell on a different way of doing. Deserving. When others are happy, let it wash you in that feeling too. People yell, you yell back, excitement and connection. By no means lose self awareness and become a roucous mob of uncontrolled alarming celebratory chaos, if that’s not how you would normally act- but let yourself do something a little different, a little louder than your usual. A scream in victory. A jump. A laugh. Yelling all of the words to Truth Hurts by Lizzo in a bus full of buzzing girls on their way home. Celebrate. Enjoy it.

3. Friendship, Taking is a part of the giving. The taking can even add to the bond. When they cry you comfort, and when you cry they comfort, an equilibrium of love and care. Involve yourself in their lives, let them know you’re there and they’ll let you know they’re with you too.

4. A skill, Training is important, undeniably so- but do not lose the pleasure in the work. A skill is most useful and advantageous when enjoyed through every part of what it is. Grow and change, but don’t mourn too often or push yourself too harshly in what ought to be your place of comfort and fun. A sport, an instrument, cooking, drawing, dancing, writing; all come with big names with big gains, but each also foster love and enjoyment in millions pushing yourself past enjoyment with take everything out of the skill leaving you empty. With every tiny failure or mistake, return to it fresh and ready to conquer and play and laugh because you love it.