#h's psyche..

I agree with you! But we need to remember the og stalker tt who kept leaking info about HK... that many people think was K herself. She kept pushing to be publicly recognized too. And I think H was under her influence for too long to be able to say no. Which is a problem for him that I clocked the first week of knowing him before I heard about K at all. The man's a people pleaser. And too accommodating. And too forgiving. For his own good...

And I also think he wasn't yet sure where things were headed with C yet at the time. All public acknowledgements of her that weren't part of scripted interviews or social media pushes came before SNL, which is when I think H and C committed to each other. And when they did, the K ball had already been rolling for too long to stop it in its tracks. VF was already arranged. That's obvious. (And look how C felt about it...) But look at how H acted towards her at the CSAs. He didn't pay for her styling. He didn't hug or kiss her after his win. He didn't stand next to her once after the ceremony. He later specifically didn't mention her at the Bell Upfronts. And he kept reiterating his relationship with C. Over and over and over again.

What do you think about h dealing with his adhd unmedicated ? Personally this is the thing that worry me the most about him, even more than some of his friends, his pr team or the gf. I don’t even want to remember how much my life was all over the place before I started taking my treatment and mind you I work a low stress job so I can’t even compare to him. This is stressing me so bad because like with a lot of mental health issues, the harder you fight against treatment (being medication or therapy) the harder it will backfire. I’ve already peeped signs of his anxiety getting worse and his constant need of grounding (and the whole stable thing with the gf) is also very telling.

I think dealing with his adhd should really be his number one priority because he will only get more attention from now and I can’t imagine him juggling that unmedicated. Like whenever I see the kind of criticism people (fans) have about him I feel so bad because most of them are just results of his adhd : him clinging to familiar relationships even when it’s hurting him. Finding support and confort in his team (even when it’s blurring the lines of professionalism). Not being good at forcing a smile. Being « too much » sometimes (this is such a weird criticism when it’s obviously his personality). Having too many friends or getting attached easily (some people getting weird with yasmin). Him being naive. His impulsivity and so on. I still deal with some crap even with medication so I can’t even imagine what goes on in his head when he’s dealing with his career, those big events and the scrutiny that comes with them.

I know he seems better now but Met weekend was really a hard watch for me (for another reason than the thread nuke😭). He was obviously exhausted and he was trying so hard to ground himself (btw you can tell C is really a safe place for him like a soothing presence in his life) but was unable to. And all these articles coming out about hc that night didn’t help at all like I’m sorry that we keep clocking your tea babe.

I really wish that the drama that happened this month didn’t break his spirit but unfortunately I see him as someone who feels emotions 10x more than normal so I’m very worried tbh. And the fact that we don’t have any news about him these days is so frustrating.

Sorry this was long but I can never be normal about hc :(

I actually have talked about this but the large majority of yall weren't here yet lol here:

I honestly think everything else being equal but replacing C with a straight guy, it's very possible that H might have clung more to K than before because you gravitate towards people you feel currently safest with when big life changes are happening. And that was obviously C for H in this lifetime. But in that other one, I can genuinely see H tethering himself to K even moreso than before.

Add to that their dysfunctional but cyclically addictive dynamic over the years as well as H's stubbornness when it comes to "not being like his parents and giving up on a relationship", I can see him not breaking up with K at all and ever marrying her soon, too. Unfortunately.

yesterday I did a little search on Pinterest and found 4 pictures from the Toronto premiere, two of them with H and K. For comparison, on the two other photos, H with an unknown girl (in almost the same pose and almost the same sad/irritated/unhappy/upset/... as with K), and H with Kalem. In the second pic with K she is holding him from the back and he's being silly. What do you think?

Maybe beating a dead horse atp but I've yet to see H and K act like a couple. Ever. I even said this yesterday that even the pics he takes with fans are more intimate than the ones with K.

Now. I will be quoting H himself from an article from November:

But the similarity for me and Shane is that, especially when we’re in love, there needs to be constant touching even when the scene isn’t intimate in that sort of way.

We see maybe 1% of these people’s actual life’s— I can only observe what is being made visible to us, but so much of this situation is stirring up emotions for me. I want to express my thoughts and then step away from this space for a while just to see how things unfold, because I’m clearly getting too affected by this even though it has nothing to do with me. I’m a student getting my Ph.D in Psychology, so maybe that’s where a lot of this is stemming from, just bear with me.

Emotional debt is extremely exhausting, for every person involved. Having a sense of obligation towards someone because they have been with you and supported you through tough times in your life, and choosing to maintain relationships because of that reason—only creates an endless cycle of resentment and toxicity. It’s not loyalty- it’s guilt. You may feel like you owe them, but love shouldn’t operate like a debt to be paid off. A healthy partnership thrives on mutual connection, not a list of gratitude. You’re also diminishing their experience. Your partner deserves to be with someone who truly loves and desires them, not someone who is simply “tolerating” them out of some kind of obligation. You can deeply appreciate what your partner has done for you without paying them back with your romantic future.

So many people get stuck in relationships and friendships that are no longer serving them because they feel that changing the dynamic that they’ve always been used to, would be too hard to readjust to. They’re trying to save themselves the growing pains. They have the “sunk cost” fallacy of: feeling like you’ve invested too much time or energy to walk away now. People that are so intertwined with pieces of your life, that you wouldn’t know what it would look like if they were not there. It’s terrifying. It sets you off, and makes you spiral about everything you could’ve done to maintain things as they were: How did I change? Is it my fault? What could’ve I done differently? Why do I feel so far removed from people that used to make me feel so at home? Why do I no longer feel the same way?

The idea of wanting to “be the same person I’ve always been” cannot happen in situations like this. Whether Hudson wants to accept it or not, his relationships have changed. They have to. You can have the safe space of home where you can re-center and feel the most at peace, but you can’t ignore you are not the same person. This is a new version of yourself, and it’s not a bad thing. There is balance you have to find and maintain that allows you to feel & accept both.

When people are suddenly thrust into fame, it triggers a psychological phenomenon often described as “arrested development.” The sudden loss of privacy, combined with intense public scrutiny, can cause profound anxiety, isolation, and a struggle to maintain a grounded sense of reality. Suddenly everyone wants a piece of your virality. Friends and family dynamics shift, and it becomes incredibly difficult to discern who has genuine intentions versus who is leveraging your new status. You can’t operate the same way you used to, because you now have more to loose than gain.

Your “stability” falters because you suddenly don’t know what stable ground you have to stand on. If you’re lucky you have people you can lean on and treat you with the empathy and normalcy you deserve, but it’s foolish to think that just because you’ve had people in your life for a long time— that means that they will act appropriately in these new circumstances. You have to pick through the dynamics of what you once knew, to now the dynamics of what you must apply. New boundaries have to be set, new expectations have to be made, and new protections have to be put in place.

There’s no guide book for this, and different people will react in different ways. If you don’t have people around you who are championing your success instead of highlighting your faults, you will loose so much of your self worth. You’ll put yourself down in order to lift these people up that you view as “more deserving” because they stayed by your side when you were “nothing.” When you had nothing, when you were no one. But guess what? No one person is more deserving of love and genuine support over another. Stop keeping score. No one is entitled to your own happiness. Stop feeling like you have to “earn your existence.” You have to weigh your personal well being against your shared history and honor your current needs.

I don’t know exactly what the point of all my ramblings are, except that how I’m seeing and perceiving Hudson right now is that he is in a long transition period. And I feel a deep sense of sadness over how much I feel like he is overwhelmed of not knowing what to do and who to pour into. I know he does have genuine people around him that love and support him, but at the same time- I feel that some people think he has grounded himself, when in reality I feel he is still freely falling. I can only hopes he finds a safe place to land. I’m sending him nothing but love and support.

Thanks for listening to my Ted Talk lol

Hi omg thanks so much for this writeup!🥰

I think a lot of us caught on to similar feelings in H a while ago. Especially with how pointed he was in his VDay story when highlighting his gratitude to K and not his love of her if that applies at all. He absolutely does read to me as someone who's loyal to a fault and tends to discount/ignore when the people he considers to be loyal to him to slight him. He reads to me as very forgiving if at times naively so. Too nice. Not discerning enough.

I do absolutely agree that he's been struggling with his image post-fame. He seems to want to keep his same lifestyle before he got famous. Not wanting to accept that's not possible in any way. He's stubborn. And unrealistic.

But I feel as though he's been able to reflect on things lately. Maybe that's wishful thinking on my part. But he's been sharing books he's reading, films he's watching etc. That suggests to me time for himself and self-reflection. And maybe a fresh outlook on things. Again, maybe wishful thinking on my part but the way he's been with his friends and K lately suggests to me that maybe he has redrawn some boundaries in his mind in a way that reflects the truth of his situation. At least, I hope.

You know I agree with you there if we're looking for logic for everything he does but maybe this one time he was acting 100% irrationally. Like we need to remember this man has unmedicated ADHD. I can see him hyperfocusing on culling his following/followers almost mindlessly as he was on set just... bored. And I can see him losing the battle of the will against his worst impulses when he deactived/deleted his account too.

A lot of people tend to think that C was his queer awakening (probably because he’s in a long term relationship with a woman) but I think he’s much more experienced than what we think.

I have so many thoughts about it but I would like to hear yours if you’re comfortable with that.

Also your blog is such a safe place for truthers that can’t stand hrtwt anymore, please never leave !!!

Baby almost nothing is illegal here lol I'm in Tumblr jail anyway😅

I have talked a little bit about this and I absolutely don't buy it lol

Especially with pretty credible accounts of him hooking up with guys in Kamloops and Vancouver before he ever met C... I feel like the people who think H suddenly realized he was attracted to men because of C haven't been paying close enough attention🫠

For reference:

Ugh. I don't know. But I can imagine it's something like 99% vs. 1% atp in time...

Because I realize that none of this would be happening if H didn't okay it technically. But I think he thinks he's already made his bed months ago and now has to deal with the consequences of his (what he now realizes to be) mistakes. I can see him silently suffering with everything and blaming himself. I really think this internal battle is a factor in why he seems more and more down whenever he's not with C. Not the only reason ofc, I think Tyler really fucked with his psyche most of all. But a factor nonetheless...