#goodselfies

I guess it’s only fair that I write an opposing piece to my 10 things I hate about tinder. There’s just one itty bitty problem- I’m not entirely sure there *are* 10 things I like about Tinder but hey I’ll give it a go.

[Note: I only managed 8. But that was more than I expected so round of applause please.]

8 things I like about Tinder:

1) YOU MEET SOME UNIQUE CHARACTERS YOU’D NOT MEET IN “REAL LIFE.”

My friends are a pretty normal bunch of people. There aren’t any hippies, any punks, any super militants greenies, any super conservatives; in essence they are generally middle class white women and men. Many are married, many have kids, some own their own homes, many rent…. It’s only on “Facebook” I really have friends that fit into their own categories. But they aren’t ones with whom I socialise in real life. Social media is great for exposing you to people who don’t fit in your box (minds out of the gutter peeps!) *but* actually meeting them? Well that is where “Tinder” comes in. I make it a point to swipe right on guys that would provide me with a unique outlook on life, guys who could show me another side of things.

2) IT’S EASY.

(And no, I’m not talking about the people on it though let’s face it the guys on there are *easy* judging by the sheer number of hey are you dtf messages I get before they even introduce themselves for fucks sake!) No, what I am referring to is that unlike some other dating or hookup sites I don’t need to fill in a shitload of questions about myself and my goals and what I like or don’t like in a partner. I get that those sorts of questionnaires actually work well because you are matched with men who complement you and are looking for the same things as you. But when you just wanna chat well, Tinder is easy. Like their pic and profile (or if you are a man like their pic, don’t bother reading their profile) then swipe right. Don’t like them? Swipe left. If they also like you and have swiped right then you are a match and viola chat away.

3) YOU CAN PICK PEOPLE CLOSER TO YOU.

Let’s face it- there’s nothing worse than chatting with someone and totally hitting it off with them then learning they’re across the other side of town! With tinder I think the limit on how far away they are is something like 120 ks- still damn far but I tend to set mine to 20-30 k’s. Whilst some sites may give a suburb with so many new suburbs popping up they could be close or far and you wouldn’t know and I’m too lazy to google map it. And this is especially important for number 4 on the list.

4) IF YOU’RE AFTER A QUICK HOOKUP YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE.

There are some girls who are looking for a hookup. Whilst tinder is now known primarily as a hookup site it wasn’t started with that intention. It was actually begun as a networking site. And from my experience there are actually a lot of guys on there who are looking for more than just a quick fuck. (Please don’t pass out from shock!) Or perhaps a bunch of them say that just because they think it’s what we want to hear?

5) IF YOU ARE TOO LAZY TO READ A LONG WINDED PROFILE AND COMPATIBILITY QUESTIONS YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE.

This kinda pertains to number 4. After all if you are after a quick hookup you wouldn’t be likely to want to fill out a heap of questions like on e-harmony. It’s also a case of if you can’t be arsed filling out that many questions yourself Tinder is a good alternative.

6) IF THERE IS A GUY WITH MUTUAL FRIENDS ITS ALMOST LIKE A REFERENCE THAT THEIR NOT A SERIAL KILLER.

Guys on tinder can be dodgy. I should know- I’ve made a blog here dedicated to their dodginess!- but if they have a mutual friend then you can hopefully put aside any fears they will mate with you and then bite your head off. Or you can ask your friend about them. (This is assuming they come up as a 1st connection not a 2nd.) I know I’ve asked a few friends whether X or Y was nice/trustworthy/married etc. Why not? It’s like how so many girls do a Google search of a guy before going on a date. Usually to make sure he’s not a wanted criminal or secretly attached. I confess to having done it myself after one horrible bad date (I posted about that I believe in bad date tale number two).

7) YOU CAN ONLY BE CONTACTED BY SOMEONE WHO ALSO LIKES YOU.

So I can’t get messages from the guys who go and swipe right on every single girl that comes up in the desperate search for a quick shag. (Why not just go to a prostitute?) Or messages from creepy dudes with lines older than my father. Or creepy dudes who are actually older than my father. Unless I also swipe right. So it cuts down on unwanted messages unlike “POF” or “Meetme.”

8) YOU LEARN TO TAKE A GOOD SELFIE.