#godson

Of course the wife asked about the app and what I was talking about and I offhandedly told her it was one of those apps parents use to keep and eye on the location of their kids. That I've seen them used sneakily by the parents and that usually it's used by stalkerish partners.

She asked about his gf and I told her he had told the brother and I that she had him download it and they had a fight about it when he had come to stay with us the weekend after eating out together cause she had checked his location and he wasn't where he said (he hadn't told her he would be eating out before we went home). That she and her mother had "blown his phone up" (his words atm) after and the brother had told him to turn his location off and that was that.

I brought up that I and the brother thought it was disgusting behavior and that we didn't like that. Of course a week after they had patched thing up.

The wife asked what I thought of her? And I laughed, "she's a selfish girl, I get it cause imma a selfish toxica- which is why I don't do relationships and I tell other to not ask for relationship advice. I'm selfish, I want that person for me and that's it. Imma toxica."

Wife didn't say anything after and we sat quietly for a second until the godson came out and she blew up on him about it.

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I had no idea she would react that way. She demanded he delete it and went on about that was why she didn't like the girl and so on and so forth. I apologized cause I had no idea and she went on saying it wasn't my fault her own son wouldn't tell her these things and his friend stood there quietly watching (as one does when their friend is getting in trouble).

After the godson went inside and the friend sat down for a moment. I asked if she was selfish or if I had called it wrong? He agreed but said nothing more. I don't know this girl. I felt bad for ruining the day.

Then his other friend came out with the godson and a discussion was had. He didn't like his friend being called spoiled once the wife called her that. And went on to explain that she has had a hard life up till now, that her parents keep food from her and she doesn't get to eat (which is why she didn't eat). Went on to say she holds a front up due to her parents and the abuse they put her through and that she leans heaving on the godson due to him being so kind.

The wife brought up again that she didn't like her being spoiled and that I agreed. The godson pointed out I said selfish, not spoiled and the other two agreed. I said selfish cause when I find someone I like I hold onto them and don't like to share and the friend said that was what the gf was doing. Because the godson is so good and healthy for her she doesn't want to let go and wants to hold onto him.

The wife brought up the tracking app and they said it was a curious question the godson saying that it wasn't as bad as he initially had said. The friends saying she was just 17yo girl wondering where her bf was when he said another thing. But then mentioned that she puts a front to guard herself and the wife didn't like that either. Which I brought up that being oneself in front of others is hard when your not sure about them (will they act like their abusers? Terror).

It was a fucking mess.

Then his friend brought up, respectfully, that the godson shut down when the wife spoke to him initially cause she was openly aggressive and dismissive instead of listening to him. He pointed at me and said that I had a calmer tone and explained, asking questions. This made the wife pause and the godson stood quietly. I asked him if his friend was right? And he said partially. That I listen and ask him follow up questions, that I explain where I am coming from. But that he also knows that she is trying to protect him even if he doesn't know, but that I open the door for him to speak up. Which is something the wife does struggle with.

I think we got more of her story out of his friends than the godson and I pointed that out. He said he didn't want to bring her out cause of this reason, that his mom didn't like her. But I said I'm a selfish person and his mom cares about me, she really does care more about others than herself but hiding her away isn't the right way. She can come out and be herself, even if slowly and she agreed. Cause I was already picking (affectionately) on the girl right off lol but it was right to her face and she understood my tone of voice (this is also something the wife struggles with, many people struggle to understand her humor).

It ended with apologies all around. He brought his gf out and we had a discussion about (idk how we got on the topic) of weight-loss and music. She's a fire dancer which I think is cool and the wife agreed, the girl opened up immediately as we asked what music she danced to? And she asked for our input, I told her Rhianna was a guarantee always and the wife agreed.

I did pull the godson aside before I left apologizing for having started everything and he said he was grateful to have had the conversation and it wasn't my fault. He said he had to learn how to say things to his mom more but that having me and his friends help cooled the argument down. 😭😭😭

The wife was sad she couldn't get him a proper birthday gift but he said he was happy cause she made him yummy chicken enchiladas and got him cake and ice cream. He said he didn't need any gifts and she pointed out the brother and my gift and we laughed-we do not have children or other grown adults to pay for and so can spend money when we want to.

The godson was off to spend the night out watching his gf dance and would sleep at his friends after.