#gloriouslily

ok but i identify as queer but ive never been called queer as a slur?? am i not a part of the community now? i dont get how you had to have been called slurs to be part of the lgbtqa+ community

ok i think i see where this is sort of stemming from

queer is not the same at LGBTA+

queer is a slur, LGBTA+ is a community

all queer people can be a part of the community, but not all members of the community are queer, does that make sense?

i think it meant heteroromantic aces tho

ok i think ive collected my thoughts enough to put this into words

queer, as a slur, has historically been used to harm, demean, and kill gay and trans people. The term is not an umbrella etymologically, it is a reclaimed slur. Thus, the only people that the slur applied to can reclaim it. 

people can’t just opt-in to being queer unless the slur has been levied against them. often i hear the argument that het aces are called queer as a slur because they dont feel sexual attraction but the problem is that when someone is insulted for not wanting sex and the term queer is used, its because by the logic of the bigot levying the slur, someone who doesnt have sex (with someone of another gender), it means they are gay (and have sex with someone of the same gender)

i need to find The Balance between functionality and sexy so some day we can live in harmony w/ hot girls whose costumes dont fall apart

yeah i want that narrator that tells me how to socialize in asian/african countries !!