#getting tested

Like, yes, totally, this man who does not even exist will love you SOOOO much after you defend him from a 15 year old child on the internet. He will be your king, you will be his queen, and you'll live happily ever after. The End.

Hey! Very proud of you for taking the steps to get tested!

While the medical profession, particularly physicians themselves should be more open and understanding, there are huge discrepancies in the medical field regarding LGBTQIA+ folks and our bodies, so I definitely understand the desire to protect yourself. In the perfect world, I would say you should find an LGBTQIA+ friendly doctor, finding a new doctor is very difficult and potentially stressful.  All that being said, my biggest tip for you is to simply not tell them. In my experience, and I’ve gotten tested every three months consistently since I was about 15 (granted, I just turned 19), physician’s don’t ask too many questions regarding who exactly you’re having sex with. They will ask a number of partners, and possibly even the types of sex, but they usually don’t ask you to identify the gender identity of your partners. That is my experience. Another idea is to go to your local clinic, as they ask even fewer questions, and see more diverse groups of people than private practices. Your partner should definitely find a trans-friendly physician, and I suggest you slowly make it a point to also find a more appropriate physician in your area. 

Good Luck!