#getridoftoxic

This thing is easier said than done. But how can we eradicate toxic people from our lives? How can we not be the toxic in someone's life? First let us start with the first question. Removing toxic people / things from my life is by far the most rewarding thing that I have done. It feels like a part of me is healed and not anxious about something that I could not pinpoint. It makes me feelings lighter and my life load less heavier. To get rid of the toxic we will need to identify them. How can we identify them when they're not dressed in dress codes and they don't have the same haircuts? It is simple, when people start controlling you as if you're in their palm and when they don't care about what you feel or what you think about. When they don't care about what you love because it is "them" who matters the most in this relationship. (Any relationship. Friends / Lovers) Whenever you're with them you feel burdened because they make you feel like you're not enough. They step into you self-confidence and they crush your self-esteem. There's a difference between someone who pushes you out of your comfort zone for you to grow, from the person who thinks that you're not worthy enough and therefore you should go the in tide that they're surfing so that you'll also be 'one step higher' in their perspective. They're controlling. They suffocate you whenever you talk to them it feels like there's not enough space for you to be yourself in because they won't like it. They don't accept you for what you are. Listen, if somebody wants you to do something that is out of your values and something that you know that is not good for you. Dear please, do yourself a favor and cut them off of your life.

Second question, how can we do it? We can do it by slowing loosening the knot. By blocking them. By telling them. Drift away from them. Whatever works for you. You see these people are not going to change if you don't tell them what their mistakes are. Trust me the whole process will be extremely worth it.

Third point, how do we know if we are toxic in somebody's life?

Ask yourself these things.

°Do you want a certain person to change just to please you?

°Do you think that this life is all about you?

°Do you talk about yourself more and decline the feelings and ideas of the other?

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How can we not be a "toxic"?

We cannot be the toxic in one's life if we respect everyone's uniqueness. All of us are different, just because he/she is your friend it doesn't mean that your hobbies and wants will be the same. For you not to be a toxic person you need to respect. Respect gets respect. If you're someone like me who's living in a mantra that says "If you can't build with them don't chill with them." You've probably encountered lots of toxic people. Even the society is toxic for people like us. Let's just learn to be tough and get rid of them. Afterall it will be us who will reap the fruits of our hardwork not them. ♥