#getawaywithit

We all know the feeling, the rush of the last minute escape or getting away with something...

It could be as obvious as a surviving your first bungee jump, sucessfully parachuting out of a plane, a near miss of a car accident, even the most modest win at a casino gives you that will rush (unless of course you do the accounting on that modest casino win and you are honest with yourself about how much you put in vs what you got out).

Anyway until you get to that point where you have to account for your choices, that rush and feeling of getting away with it is a huge reason why people do all kinds of crazy stuff, including stalking.

Overcoming Fears with Dislikes and Thrills.

There are a number of issues that blend together for this part of the story.

When your dislike or obsession (or both) of someone is greater than your good judgment, meaning you start making bad and/or illegal choices, it's time to check yourself.

If the notion that you can do certain bad or illegal actions is something you can getaway with, and the thought sticks in your mind, check yourself. I have no idea,what else can be said about this. Just make good decisions...

After hours of research and reading numerous psychology articles and research on the information that exist currently for stalking cases. Yes the majority of stalking cases are the result of romantic relationships that have dismantled and the ensuing fallout.

The case we have here is one of the 8% of stalking cases where a person is stalked for 5 years or more.

Not creepy at all... and there is definitely a big chunk of the 'getting away with it' factor involved.

Since this circumstance puts us on the fringe, statistically speaking, it was easy to pick out this tendency. Not to obviously point out the obvious but, if you are stalking someone for that long, getting away with it is a big deal.

Since I was the bungee jumping thrill seeker and not the torment and torture others thrill seeker, I can cognitively understand the thrill seeking aspect but, can't relate.

Practice Makes Perfect

We all know that no matter how much we dislike repetitious actions, repetition does help us improve our skill.

Stalking is no different. As shown by our stalker the more they do it, they better they get.

As a sneaky thrill seeker, stalkers are no different. Since there is no law against being an a**hole, there is room to carry out crappy attitudes towards others before that line is crossed. In our case, that line was crossed sometime ago.

Overcoming Fears of Bad Things by Doing Yet Worse Acts

Following the 'Practice Makes Perfect' process this part adds the 'I can't stand this person enough to dismantle their life but I don't want to appear to everyone else to be that person, who does that?" Now I am an outsider looking into a rabit hole of bad decision making but, at some point you have to stop and think even for a brief moment about the series of decisions being made.

So what's a jealous, judgy person to do? Why become a stalker of course?!

The pattern we have seen with every stalking action cseems to be; (Yes, it is not lost on me that I may be generalizing abit and that some stalkers may have a very specific process they follow. Remember this is based on my experience and a great deal of observation)

Apprehension

Performance

Thrill

Validation

Subsequent mental justification for future repetition

Basically, you have a more complex formula for: Wash... Rinse... Repeat.

Underneath all of this is the fuel of the thrill of Getting Away with it, without the threat of being a red smear on a rock, like bungee jumping. After all the only reason you have less screw ups with bungee jumping is because there are far fewer do overs.