#gary l thomas

God, not your marital status or the condition of your marriage, defines your life.

You may not have realized this, but husbands like to brag about their wives. They may not say it to you, but they notice your strengths and take pride in them.

Your husband chose you as you were and accepts you as you are – but you can bless him with the woman you want to become.

I’ll be upfront with you: you can’t change a man. But you can influence or move him – a far subtler art.

Men don’t normally change if what they’ve been doing seems to be working for them. When a woman allows her husband to treat her with disrespect, he has no motivation to change – and so it’s unlikely he ever will.

When you consistently, persistently, and creatively affirm your husband, you remove one of the most compelling reasons for him to get overinvolved at work or to find an escapist hobby that robs his passion for home.

Because success and achievement play such a vital role in a man’s sense of well-being, we men tend to have a greater fear of failure, and even insecurity, than most women would ever guess.

…it might surprise you to learn that when dozens of men filled out a recent survey, listing how they wish their wives would love them, not a single one mentioned a desire for their wife to lose weight. About half of them, however, expressed a desire for their wives to cultivate a different attitude toward sexual intimacy – a comfortableness with sex and their bodies, the willingness to be emotionally engaged, initiating, enthusiastic.