Hi fuszymunch, it’s good to hear from you and thank you for sending this in. I hope I can help and give you some advice/guidance.

School can be stressful, and this can lead to us losing our motivation which is really frustrating - especially if we want to do well! It’s also a shame to hear that you feel you can’t talk to anyone, as we are always here and willing to listen. Your school should have a counsellor or someone who you can talk to regarding how you’re feeling and coping; this is their job and I assure you they would be delighted to help and hear from you instead of you suffering in silence. I’m not too sure on rules and regulations, but I don’t think they can tell anyone what you say to them unless they believe you are in danger (you will definitely need to check this, however).

If you do not feel comfortable in talking to someone at school, have a think about who you would feel comfortable talking to. The right person will listen and try help, and we are more than happy to try guide you and talk to you if needed. If you don’t feel as if talking to someone is an option, how about writing down your worries outside of school hours? Take some time to bullet point things that make you feel as if you want to sleep all the time. Bottling things up is unhealthy and can cause a lot of issues, and we would hate for anything to happen to you. This is why finding out how to cope with feeling like this is valid and important.

We have a page about school and staying calm/getting a good nights sleep which will contribute to you feeling a lot more awake at school which you can check out here. It may not be the root to your issues, but learning how to cope with simple things like getting a good nights sleep and looking after yourself can improve how you feel on a day to day basis.

An outlet for your frustrations can perhaps be tied in with hobbies - do you think you could try out some new activities in your area and see how they may help? Volunteering could help boost your motivation and make you feel as if you’re doing good - which you are! How do you feel about checking out what’s available to do in your area or even clubs after school?

I have an idea which you’re more than welcome to try out, and it may lead to you feeling more in control of your thoughts and how they arise. Whenever you have a bad thought about problems or issues, challenge your brain to not think of those. If you feel as if trying to work to a solution in your mind will let the thought pass, try that out. If not, think it, accept the thought and move on with the thing you’re doing. Later you can write it down or try and work it out, visually or through words.

We are always here to listen and to talk to, and please don’t ever feel as if you’re alone. I believe in you and I believe you can catch that motivation back. Trying new things and being spontaneous is one of the ways forward, and please don’t hesitate to get back in contact with us if you want more information/help.

All the best,

Hey Love,

I hope we got to your other ask and the advice was what you needed.

I'm glad you're stepping back and looking at the relationships that you're in - it can be really helpful to sometimes take a minute and think about whether they're beneficial to you or not.

From what you've said, I'm not sure if I understand what you think is toxic? Toxic relationships are those that are hostile, make you feel like you can't be yourself, make you unhappy etc.. from what you've said it just seems like you're both having personal problems with depression and expressing how you feel.

Why do you think you're a bad friend? As long as you're there for your friend, make sure she knows that you're going to be there for her in the future and don't make her unhappy on purpose. Being unable to talk about your personal feelings doesn't make you a bad friend.

If you're hoping to open up to her, I can give you some tips!

Think about how you're feeling.Take some time to yourself to work out how you feel. You can always write it down if it will help, I always feel like writing stuff down takes it out of my mind and puts it on the paper so I don't get all confused.

Talk to her!Obviously this is the main step, and even though it seems super scary it's actually really easy. If you'e not good at talking to people in person about sensitive topics/how you're feeling, you can always text her. I find text a really good way to say things that are difficult - just be careful as some things can be read differently to how you meant them.

Listen to her.After you've opened up and told her how you feel, make sure she knows she can do the same. She might feel comfortable telling you some things too, and just having you to listen to her and know she always has someone to talk to is great. You don't have to have an answer for what she tells you - you're not a therapist and you don't have all the knowledge. Just understand how she feels, and don't feel like you have to answer. Sometimes silence and understanding is best.

Validate.Know that you're both allowed to feel the way that you do. You're both in your own places in life, but you might even be struggling with the same things - so support each other and make sure that you help each other to know that your feelings are real and allowed.

I hope this helps at least a little bit - if you need any more advice please send in another message and I'll try my best.