Conflict vs. Argument
It happens all the time, at least once per term that I teach, or in the first session with an indie team. Iâm watching an incredibly talented and hilarious performer suddenly start stammering their way through an agreement they aren't enjoying because they denied an impulse to do something else and now they are improvising like they are walking through molasses, and when I ask them any version of âwhatâs on your mind?â Or âhow are you going?â Or âhow is this feeling?â Or "whatâs up?â, so often their response is a big sigh, or a frustrated quick release of some form of âI donât know what to say because I donât want to cause a conflict.â Iâll usually, cruelly, ask the question that by now I know the answer to âwhatâs wrong with conflict?â And theyâll tell me that [insert teacher] told me to avoid conflict at all costs.
That teacher was not giving the wrong note the day that they said that. Language fucked them, OR youâve twisted their specific note into a broad one. I was teaching a level 5 Harold class once, and a performer, who consistently delights me, was playing a character robbing the Louvre with her accomplice. Mid-robbery, a disagreement began while standing at the Mona Lisa. This performer froze up and I asked what was up. She said âI wanted to smash the Mona Lisa, but that would be conflictâ. Everyone in the room was like âSmash that fucking Mona Lisaâ. One of the worst things you can do in improv is judge a move before you make it. Youâve stopped trusting yourself. As the old adage goes, jump and figure it out on the way down. They smashed the Mona Lisa and it was the scene was injected with energy, it was alive again. She was free again to follow whatever was inspiring her about the scene and not honouring some misunderstood note from some teacher sometime in the past. Hereâs something about notes⊠If your teacher has ever told you to NEVER do something, itâs my opinion that they didnât really mean never. There is no room for such brash absolutes in such a malleable and constantly evolving art form. Maybe they mean never (in exactly that scenario which you may never come across again). But also, sometimes, your teacher didnât say NEVER, but you have turned a note about a specific instance into a broad stroke lesson along the lines of ânever do that again, youâre a bad person for ever having done it even onceâ. Again, I see this all the time. I ask a student a question, and their response is some historical note that has stuck with them and is making them act in a way that is everything but truthful in the scene.Â
Whether your teacher specifically told you to avoid conflict in all scenarios, or whether thatâs how you interpreted what they said, I want to suggest that we are misusing that word. Language, in case you havenât gathered, is important. I think itâs important to note that conflict in drama is different to an argument. In drama/comedy/whatever youâre making, letâs use conflict as a noun. Not a verb. Your characters are incompatible with each other, or with nature, or with themselves. That does not suggest they are arguing about it. It just suggests they are incompatible. They are in conflict, not in an argument.Â
Here are my top 3 tips for avoiding an argument but living in whatever conflict you discovered. Â These, along with every other tip Iâve ever given is subject to change as Iâm constantly learning from the incredible number of scenes Iâm seeing and performing. These are simple examples. As improv goes, there are a million nuanced ways in which this could go better or worse.Â
1. Consider your status.
Here is how a silly scene at a Fuggtown training played out. We all loved it! (FYI: Fuggtown is a House Harold Team at the Improv Conspiracy that I have been coaching for 2 years, they have taught me a lot, and hopefully, I have done the same in return) Santa played by Elizabeth (endowed by Zach) Elf played by Zach Santa was a tyrannical leader and the elf was trying to overthrow. Zach made himself physically smaller than Elizabeth to show his status in relation to her. They were in conflict, but at every turn, Santa won because both players agreed. In essence, the exchange was this.Â
Elizabeth: âI have the support of all the children in the world. How do you think theyâll respond, knowing the elves are against Santa?â
Zach: âgah, damn you, ClausâÂ
Elizabeth: âyouâre all small. I can crush you all anywayâ
Zach: âgah damn you, Clausâ
Zach was upset and remained, throughout the scene, in direct opposition to Santa. As a character, he didnât stop being mad or in conflict with Santa. But as an improviser, he was in agreement with Elizabeth about who would prevail in this scene and it allowed Elizabeth to be a more absurd Santa. Later in the scene, he contributed to the heightening of her tyranny, but this is where he began losing. Results: A very simple and good time. Which hints at numberÂ
2. Donât try to win (This is so counter-intuitive to most human beings)
Another scene featuring Elizabeth, this time with Dale. Elizabeth had brought a horse into the house. Who knows why.Â
Dale: âOh Iâm so madâ
Elizabeth: âIâm sorry, I should have told you about the horse and that I would move it into the studyâÂ
Dale: âno no itâs my fault I should have just not asked you about it, Iâm just mad that I know about itâ
Elizabeth: âno Iâm sorry I let it track its shit through the houseâ
Dale: âI should have given you a real place to house a horse.âÂ
Again, absolutely in conflict - but this time both actors are taking the blame instead of trying to win which is delightful to watch.
3. That accusation is an endowment.
Someone just call you a dickhead? How fun.. be a dick head. Donât fight back⊠they just offered you the gift of being one. Own it. Have fun. An example from the indie team So Fresh last time I was coaching them.Â
Nikita: âYou think youâre so smartâÂ
Diego: âThank you, I knew you were going to say thatâÂ
Nikita: âoh you did, did you? Gah youâre so annoyingâÂ
Diego: âOh I know, I can appreciate where youâre coming fromâ
Diego took the gift of being âso smartâ and played above the argument while continuing to let Nikita be mad at him. In fact, he fuelled her emotion instead of trying to change it. Â Â
As Dave Razowsky would say âThe argumentative person has been cast. Roleâs takenâÂ
FYI: When we are still establishing a Base Reality⊠I think we should still aim to be on the same page, before discovering if/how we are incompatible with each other.









