#fsog

Illouz, who has been writing on this subject for years, in books like Why Love Hurts: A Sociological Explanation to Saving the Modern Soul: Therapy, Emotions, and the Culture of Self-Help to Oprah Winfrey and the Glamour of Misery, knows this is how you derail movements: by turning societal problems into individual failures. In this mode, the source of inequity turns into psychological inadequacy: it’s your daddy issues that are keeping you from finding a mate, not a generally hostile dating culture and conflicting messages about sex and love; it’s your personal chemical imbalance that keeps you depressed, not a very real and unhealthy shift in the way we manage our families, our communities, our cities.

Freedom thus becomes simply anxiety. We can be theoretically grateful for our freedom to select a career path, but we may experience that choice as mostly fear and stress. We may be grateful that we can select our own sexual partners now, but we may nevertheless experience that selection process as a list of things about our own bodies that we need to fix in order to achieve the right sexual partner. And where exactly does sexual freedom intersect with intimacy? What if I do manage to have it all — the great career, the family, the house in the suburbs, the husband — and I am still miserable? It’s in this context, Illouz suggests, that we should read 50 Shades, which directly engages with these questions and offers this relationship between the two protagonists as an ideal. All you have to do is model their behavior and you can have this for yourself! Illouz rightly labels the trilogy as self-help rather than fiction.

Let's see which fandom Tumblr will erase...!

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hey bbys

i have been reading on here for a while (and let me just say yall create some of the best peices of literature ive ever read)... anyways im really excited to start posting!!!

here's some important info:

*english is not my first language*

I write for

basically all OBX characters & Actors

Wolverine

Spiderman

Tsitp

scandal

NFL players

Gossip Girl

Heartstopper

tvd

fsog

harry potter characters

*there's def more so really whatever you request*

I WILL write smut, fluff, Eds, Mental health stuff, insecurities, etc...

(also whatever you request)

I'll do any AU's requested

Readers: Puppy!reader, Crybaby!reader, Baddie!reader, pornstar!reader, Innocent!reader, pogue!reader, kook!reader, student!reader, Younger!reader, dom!reader, sleepy!reader, toxicfamily!reader, AND JUST ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE!!

okk new stuff coming soon love ya