#friendsoftom

When I die I want my ashes scattered in the fountain from the opening of Friends.

— Tristan Devin (@screamdracula) April 23, 2012

You used to call into BetheMarriage. You were a regular caller. You were a regular caller on The Best Show, too, but I'm still me so I put my (former) show first.

You took your own life. I didn't know you felt so alone. Or like there was any way out. My guess is that a lot of people didn't know. I don't know. Maybe we never know. I am not so bold to think that I could have prevented you, that a Tweet or a text or Facebook post from me would have made any difference.  I am a person from the Internet, even though we had spoken and even had drinks, we were part of  a greater community of people. Funny people. Friends of Tom. THe WFMU community. That community is poorer today. People do things because they do them. You did this thing and that's that. We don't get a say. There is a Tristan-shaped hole in the universe that can't be filled. But I hope that your friends and your family will heal, and in time,  I hope they will take some comfort in knowing that we all share in their grief.