(FT 4/4) A number of people in this anthology mentioned âfor awhile I thought maybe I was bi, but that was just me trying to force myself to date women when really I was gay.â Okay, thatâs how your life experience went, but where are the bi men? It got me thinking about how rarely I find things written from that perspective. It shouldnât be surprising: lesbian anthologies from that era are also prone to be lesbian-only, rather than the more recent works that highlight the specific views and experiences of bisexual- or queer-identified women; men less commonly identify as bisexual rather than monosexual compared to women based on research I read. Regardless, I find myself wanting some feel-good affirmation pieces written by men about yes, Iâm bi, I could exclusively date women and make my life easier and I really have liked women Iâve dated romantically, but also I like men too, and neither of those things are a phase or a fake, and whether I am currently in a relationship with a man or a woman I continue to be proudly bi.














