#flirtychat

I have learned:

I have opinions on politics. Lots of them! Strong ones. Normally, I don’t like to discuss politics. Or religion. I feel tense and nervous when they come up. I’m fairly conscious of being politically correct I guess, especially with work colleagues.

I hate the very idea of reality TV. I don’t understand what the Kardashians are on every magazine. Of course, I read that they’re worth almost one billion dollars. Maybe they’re the smart ones?

Books are a never ending source of comfort and truth in my life. I find this every time I read. I’m between books right now and looking for the next best thing. Talking this over with others who also love to read has been a joy that I didn’t know I was missing.

The best part is, that somehow, expressing myself online has spilled over into my offline life.

A new assertiveness is cropping up inside

Last week, when a date suggested a movie, I actually turned it down.

I didn’t want to see it and I said so. Then I made my own suggestion. I felt nervous about it. Usually I would have just agreed. I’m a bit of a people pleaser I guess. But I had to try asserting myself.

He agreed.

I felt more powerful all evening.

Is this feeling due to the Online Disinhibition Effect that Dr. Delilah told me about? It may be.  The basic idea is that when people go online, they worry less about what other think. They are then able to act in a bolder way.

  Transcending my self-imposed limits

One thing that has become clear to me is that there are all kinds if limits on my life. I hadn’t realized it. Now that I know that they are there, I can push through them.

This month, I want to:

Set aside flirty chat and focus on great conversations with at least three new friends

Find a book loving anonymous chat companion

Express myself. I’m going to say what I really think at least once in every conversation I have this month, online and off.

P.S. Have an opinion you want to hash out? Chat anonymously with online friends and connect with your real self.

She had no ring on her long fingers.

I slipped my left hand into my pocket.

She winked, smiled and darted off.

Forgetting all about my T-bones, I followed. She grinned at me as she picked up milk before taking off again.

She locked eyes with me near the fruit, as she slid cherry tomatoes into her basket. Then she ran off.

What could I do but follow?

  Checking out

At the till I was no longer alone. Everyone was loading up the counter with rabbit food and brown bread.

The redhead was passing by, heading out. She caught my eye.

Outside, the sunlight lit up her red hair.

I thought about just walking right out and following her. But I was getting bogged down with grocery bags. Headed towards the car.

It wasn’t much of a barbecue without the steaks, unbought, in the store. Boy, did I take some heat for that.

  Nothing serious, just some laughs and a flirty chat

I’ve got a great life offline. Everything a man my age could want. But I’m looking for a little fun too. Some laughs. Cyber dates.

For me, virtual dating is all about having a great time. When I go out I like to:    

Drive fast

Eat well

Pick up the cheque

I like to make a lady laugh, online or off. I have some great stories, too. Dozens of them.

  P.S. I don’t want to rock any boats at home. I just want to have a good time. I’m going to try a cyber date and I know just the place. Come on. Try it out. Click here for anonymous online dating.  

Ready to discover new people and places

I’m ready for some flirty chat. This summer, I’m going to:

travel Europe (online if not off)     

 read three classic books (Mr. Darcy anyone?)

virtual date at least one a week until I find just the right kind of people that speak to me 

I’m excited to connect with people who could be anyone, anywhere and talk about anything. Now that’s what I call exhilarating.

  Let’s cyber chat

I’m curled up in bed with my laptop and a nice glass of Chianti. 

I’ve got a message from someone intriguing. He likes Europe too and is big into the classics. His avatar is well dressed and kind of funky.

He’s online now and wants to cyber chat…I do too. I’ll be back. We’re heading off to Italy. Wish me luck. 

  P.S. Know what you want and put it out there to attract the kind of people that relate to the real you. It works for me. Connect with your ideal alterD8. Get started right away.