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Sugawara: Tell me about a time where you didnāt give up.
A few times while I was seeing a therapist last summer I thought really hard about justā¦not going back. It was too hard, she was asking questions that were just making me more upset rather than making me feel better, or the time commitment was causing trouble at work, or whatever. I had a long list of excuses not to keep going back that I kept cycling through.
I donāt have a big rousing statement to explain how I overcame that, unfortunately, but I knew I had nowhere to go but up. So I kept justā¦putting those thoughts on shelves, telling myself I would come back to it (Iād always forget), or that Iād decide later; āoh, itād be harder to stop than to keep going, anyway,ā kinds of things. And then summer was over and I moved out of state and had to stop anyway, and Iād made it through after all.
Tanaka: Are you overprotective of your friends?
This gets a resounding YES actually. I think the only reason Iām not completely obnoxious to everyone who knows me well is that I donāt usually ACT on it, but holy shit, wrong someone I care about and GURL WE GONā HAVE AN ISSUE.
As an example⦠Iām not overly secretive about the fact that I donāt usually Get Angry. Iām not an angry personā I donāt go into rages; I feel frustrated, or irritated, or grumpy, or even what I would describe as beingĀ āmad,ā but I usually donāt feel anger. Except when my friends or loved ones are getting fucked with. The last time I can remember getting Seriously Angry was when a kid on the school bus was bullying my little brother, and the last time I can remember getting Actually Pretty Pissed Off (if you will) was when I found out someone ā who was by the way, effectively nearly a stranger to me, but in my brain I had decided āthis person is a friend and I care about their wellbeingā ā was being jerked around really bad by someone they cared about a lot.
I try really hard not to be likeā¦stifling or overbearing, which I would say is different from overprotective (but easy to have overlap)? I wonāt usually pick fights unless I feel like nobody else is going to handle it, but I have caused some trouble now and then by either actually approaching someone I find to be causing a problem, or, at minimum, making my distaste known pretty blatantly, with someone whoās hurting my friends.
(One more fun anecdote: when one of my absolute closest friends started dating this new guy, I had a whole speech prepared to explain to him in no uncertain terms that if he hurt her he would have to deal with ME, the closest thing to an older brother she was gonna get. Turned out heās a super cool dude and I never had to give that speech, but MAN, I had that locked and loaded.)
Hinata: Have you ever become friends with someone you initially disliked?
This oneās sort of interesting because I donāt often dislike people when I meet them right off the batā for someone with a boatload of trust issues Iām extremely trusting on like, a really superficial tier? It takes a LOT to give me like, skeevy weirdĀ āthis person is not greatā vibes such that I would hold someoneās at armās length.
Though as everyone who has met me in person knows, I am STARTLINGLY standoffish and chilly the first time I interact with people. I swear Iām not doing it on purpose, itās not that I donāt like you, my brain is just somewhere else. (Related: I apologize to anyone who has ever flirted with me ever. I have no idea thatās what youāre doing and have no idea how to reciprocate even if I want to. :|)
All that said, I think the closestĀ I have to aĀ āyesā to this question is Alan,Ā unclewhisky, because while I didnāt dislikeĀ him at first, he was odd and very much a satellite to the same groups I was a satellite to, and he was The One Boy in my solar system of like seven women plus me. We sort of ended up in some weird clumsily aligned orbit, loosely polite acquaintances who kept passing in the dark without really connecting for likeā¦two and a half years, in college, before we started going to bars together and hanging out more.
and now, fuckinā like seven and a half YEARS after meeting each other, weāve been living together for going on 5 years and weāre near inseparable.
Thereās that for first impressions.