#fighting fair

Based on the research, we have discovered there is a positive cycle linking assertiveness and self-confidence and a negative cycle linking avoidance and perceived dominance. In the positive cycle, as a person uses more assertiveness, their level of self-confidence tends to increase. As a person’s self-confidence increases, their willingness and ability to be more assertive increases. Increasing…

They say practice makes perfect, but when it comes to our relationships, we are likely to make mistakes. The key is building awareness and developing skills and practicing those skills. The following of four strategies from relationship guru John Gottman will help you break patterns of negativity and take a positive approach to solving problems: 4. Keep practicing what you have learnt Once you…

Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. By listening and speaking in a non-defensive fashion, avoiding criticism you can help foster healthy discussion. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of life but by speaking non-defensively, this positive posture will benefit your relationship. The following of four strategies from relationship guru John…

Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. By listening and speaking in a non-defensive fashion, avoiding criticism you can help foster healthy discussion. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of life but by speaking non-defensively, this positive posture will benefit your relationship. The following four strategies from relationship guru John Gottman…

Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of every relationship and what matters is how we discuss and resolve our differences. The following four strategies from relationship guru John Gottman will help you break patterns of negativity and take a positive approach to solving problems: 1. Calm down: You can’t…

You can try to avoid conflict by tamping down negative emotions and brushing seemingly minor issues under the rug, but at some point, they will come back to bite you. Many times this is in the form of a blowup that is completely disproportional to whatever seemed to trigger it. You end up fighting not only about the topic at hand but ten other previously unaddressed issues as well. As…

     This may seem like a big bullet point for the unhealthy relationship side, but this can be a bullet point for both (but mainly healthy side). All individuals get angry, it is a normal essential feeling we all experience. However, it is how we handle our anger that defines which side this is for.