what advice or info would you give to someone newly diagnosed with DID? iāve been diagnosed for a year now but i still feel like i have a lot to learn.
that feeling never goes away entirely. youāll always feel like youāre trying to catch up, even if you read every book and go to therapy constantly.
give alters space. emphasize safety. this is our home. this is our safe space. no one is upset with you. you are okay here.
encourage writing and notetaking. leave paper and pen out of parts that arent into technology and have a tech place for the rest.
let everyone have something thatāsĀ ātheirsā some of our kids have a plushie that is just for them. those of us who are older have a t shirt or bag or eyeliner or something that we picked out or asked for that is just for us. we can give other parts permission to use it but ultimately its up to us who gets to do that and it feels like control and security
develop a support system. you need an in person friend who knows about DID. you need a space to create writing and art and journal. you need a therapist. you need a psychiatrist. you need a doctor. you need a social outlet that is not at all related to trauma or DID or health. you cannot internalize your support team or rely on online interaction alone.
do not immerse yourself in the online community. it is not healthy, it is not reliable, and it is not supportive. yes, there are places that are okay, but i cannot express how unhealthy most of these spaces are. places that encourage confession, venting, oversharing, gossip, and hunting for fakes. get out.
get in person hobbies. some alters will like different ones, but encourage hands on activities like drawing, crochet, baking, writing on paper, etc. its EXTREMELY therapeutic and healthy
stop running. when you notice you are avoiding, you dont have to dive in. but you should write down what you are avoiding. make notes of everything. collect data. stop ignoring your weird moments and use it to formulate new tools.
