personally, i think something the femininity discourse is missing is that some things considered feminine aren't inherently oppressive, they're only sneered at because women do them. for example, teaching and nursing are incredibly important professions crucial to society's basic functioning but because they're associated with women (feminine) people don't respect them. in the early days of computing, many programmers were women (including the very first computer programmer Ada Lovelace and the female programmers who worked on the calculations for the first moon landing).
if men never took over CS, would people be disparaging programming and making fun of 'girly hobbies like making a tic-tac-toe game to play with your friends in Python?'
[a 'feminine' profession]
