#feelingsexywhilepoledancing

There are two types of powers or currency in this world > Sex and Money. One of the biggest underlying reasons all woman are so driven to feel sexy, have a beautiful body, and be as fit as possible is because of this underlying power that sex gives a woman in this world. We don’t talk about this much, but it’s a VERY important concept to truly understand on a deeper level if you ever really want to feel comfortable and sexy your own skin.During a recent sexual encounter, I was told: “you’re actually comfortable with your body, it’s nice to be with someone who isn’t’ insecure about the way they look”. My response was “well that’s what I do, teach a woman to feel confident and sexy in their body, I would be the world’s biggest hypocrite if I didn’t actually feel that way about myself”. And then I started thinking…… Gee, I never really talk at great length about this with my fans. That was by far the best compliment I have ever received from a man.And THIS IS the most important part of learning to pole dance for fitness. Sure it’s the best workout, sure it’s a lot of fun, sure pole dancing can make your body look toned and fit, HOWEVER, above all that, pole dancing has the power to re-shape the way you ACTUALLY feel about your body when you are naked. It has the power to re-shape your attitude into feeling comfortable in your own skin and a powerful, confident woman - IF you allow it to happen.The reason I haven’t talked about it much is that it’s a sexual topic and feels a bit taboo, especially when I am trying to send a message that pole dancing is for fitness at home and keep things “clean” for the everyday woman. Pole dancing isn’t a trashy stripper thing to me, but there is no denying that it has sexual undertones and influences that really attract women to it, even if it’s a purely subconscious attraction. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel and look your best while you are dancing on your dance pole at home.ALL women are sexual in nature. We all want to feel in control, pampered, cared for, sexy, REALLY SEXY, and confident. We want to make heads turn. It’s the world we live in. The reason sex is a powerful currency is that we all want it. Anything that the majority of people want will cause people to pay for it and flock to it subconsciously and that’s powerful.So where do woman stand to gain and improve knowing about sex as a power?The first steps are to embrace the attitude that it’s ok to be sexual. Allow yourself permission to love your body, even if it’s not perfect because IT’S YOUR BODY. You only have one body and it deserves love, kindness, and tenderness even if it doesn’t look like a perfect supermodel.At some point to really feel comfortable with your body on the inside, you have to strip away those internal thoughts that tell you that you are not sexy right now. For example: if you were to reflect inward and attempt to feel sexy while you are pole dancing, you may hear in your mind that you need to get rid of that cellulite on your thighs and THEN you will be sexy. When this happens, don’t deny that thought, it’s a genuine point of view that you have. The trick is to see that thought, allow it to be a point of view that you have, let it go and remember that you don’t have to believe every thought you have as truth right now.You can still CHOOSE to feel sexy ANYWAY right now, even if your thoughts disagree. Your internal thoughts are not the final decision on how you get to feel about yourself. Learning to hear and see your thoughts, but not necessarily buy into them as the truth in the now moment is a critical practice to master.This takes time. So if you attempt to practice this and end up feeling like it’s not working right away, don’t be surprised.You have believed those negative thoughts in your mind, messages sent in the media, and viewing pictures of supermodels for years. Undoing these subconscious thoughts are a process and practice that will be perfected in time.I didn’t’ wake up and decide I was going to feel sexy and then it just happened. I had to KEEP DECIDING to feel sexy every day. Here is a secret I have NEVER told anybody before.I didn’t get the beautiful body I have now BEFORE I felt sexy on the inside. I got the body of a pole dancer and became toned and sexy AFTER I decided I felt sexy.I honestly feel that the biggest block to actually getting the body of our dreams and actually feeling comfortable in our own skin is our own mind.Once you get through those blocks in your mind, you will find yourself more committed to your workouts and more willing to eat healthier. Your won’t be fighting or pushing yourself anymore. When stop fighting with you on the inside, the perfect dream body just naturally falls into place.Your dream body is a result AND EFFECT of what you think on the inside. Getting a dream body won’t make you feel anymore sexy than you do right now. That’s a lie a culture has duped us into believing as a means to increase profit margins by selling you the next best diet pill or eating plan. I have confirmed this truth in my own pole dancing classes. There have been many beautiful women who come to class and they hate their bodies and appearances just as much as the girl who is 50lbs overweight.It’s time for a change; it’s time to change on the inside FIRST. Your body will come in alignment with that as you shift on the inside.That is my message to you today.That is the message I want you to remember when you are doing your pole dancing workouts.Be beauty now, it’s who you are……..Please remember to share this article, share the social love, and leave me a comment below!

I have been wanting to write more articles about the spiritual side of pole dance fitness and all it has to offer. This is a deep topic and not one easy to write about because I was never sure where to start. Today, after having a bad emotional episode I realized where to start. I hate to say it, but sometimes feeling like you’ve hit “bottom” emotionally can really help you get going again in the right direction.I don’t know about you, but for me, many times I approach my pole dancing with an expectation that I need to get something from it. For example, when I pole dance, I want to FEEL like I got a workout, so I can stay lean and look my best for the upcoming summer.Other subconscious expectations include, increased flexibility, a more positive attitude, the approval of my fans, etc. You know them, if you look inside yourself, you will find your own expectations. For some of you it’s looking sexy for your man and for others it boils down to a fun way to lose weight. Whatever your reasons are, it’s an expectation to get something from your pole dancing. What if I told you that you’re potentially setting yourself up for failure by doing that? What if there is more to dance than “getting something” from it? Dance goes back prior to biblical times. It’s seated in all cultures and for a good reason. Many fads and practices come and go in various cultures, but dance remains……… because it’s more than just “dance”.Pole dancing for fitness or for ANY reason has the power to allow you to remember your inner “love flow”.AND, did you know that your expectations can cut you off from that spiritual flow?Getting back to my story so you can see my point here, I hit an emotional bottom. It’s happened to me multiple times and for those of you following me, you know that I struggle with Hypothyroidism which can leave me in the throws of depression.It really doesn’t matter how you hit an emotional bottom, the point is that you know when you are there. Life feels like @$#%! When you are feeling down you may not be able to find the motivation to get on the pole and dance. Even if you’re not on bottom, you may find that sometimes it’s just hard to get on the pole dance like you know you love to and you know you can.This made me wonder…… WTF is my problem? And I realized that the PROBLEM was my problem.After hitting bottom and coming back out of it so many times, I saw a pattern……. a “love flow” pattern I want to share with now.Expectations can bring problems to dancing. It’s not that it’s bad to want to lose weight or look sexy for your boyfriend at all, however, when out of balance those expectations can kill a valuable jem you may not know you already have inside you at this very moment, a jem just waiting to sparkle.One of the expectations that stunted my ability to get back on the pole and dance was the expectation to lose weight (common problem I know). When I wasn’t getting the weight loss results I wanted through dance I started to think, “well what’s the point in dancing? I’m not going to lose weight anyway!”We all have our hang ups. For others it might look like this “why bother trying, I’m so strapped for time and my kids won’t leave me alone!”Whatever your reason, I would like to invite you to drop ALL your expectations in your pole dancing workout (for now – you can take them back later if you want).Now that the expectations are gone for this moment in time, now allow yourself to disengage from any feelings or “right” or “wrong”. After all, they aren’t helping you, are they? And who made those rules anyway?Now in this space with NO expectations without any “right” or “wrong” judgements against yourself, allow yourself to relax into the idea of pole dancing. As you grab a hold of the dance pole, allow your body to move as a GIFT to the dance. Allow your body to have a voice and a freedom of moment in a loving way and just BE.Rest in that love, flow with it, ALLOW the inner soul part of you to SHOW YOU how to move. All it needs is your permission. If you judge, you take away that permission because you are making the rules again and taking away the inspiration your soul could show you. When you do this, don’t judge what happens either…. If you feel like crying, cry, if you feel like jumping for joy, do it – THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG.The love flow is just being and allowing ALL emotional energies, not just he good ones!Will you pole dancing today and give your body permission to express what it wants without judgement just because you can?For me, it’s easiest to practice this alone when nobody is watching. Why? Because I might cry or do something weird. People judge, it’s human nature and when you are trying to enter a space of no judgement, it’s hard enough to get ourselves to stop criticizing ourselves! Removing other people in the room makes things easier.Practicing the love flow while pole dancing has changed my life, increased my motivation, increased my ability to feel sexy and confident, and removed negative emotional obstacles. I believe it can do the same for you........ if you allow it.So, give the “love flow” a try and please comment below and let me know how it goes : )

Life may be short, life is precious. It’s vitally important to have a strong and deep understanding of ourselves and I'm not talking about how your friends of family perceive you but rather an understanding of the unique YOU.It’s common for each and every one of us to get caught up in feeling good when other people like us, when we are succeeding in our jobs, when we are a good mom, or when we have a goal or mission in life that makes us feel valuable but are those things a true reflection of YOU? Who are you really?If you take all those things away and look yourself in the mirror now, can you say that you are living your unique and authentic life? Can you say that you deeply know yourself and love yourself? Most of you will draw a blank. The greatest gift that pole dancing for a workout gives you is the gift of really knowing yourself and if you haven’t experienced this gift yet, then I would like to invite you to keep reading and allow me to show you this hidden gem. When I started pole dancing for fitness, I lived in a small town of about 5000 people in Wyoming (with no Wal-Mart). The culture of the town is very conservative and old-fashioned, new concepts are likely to be squashed if you attempt to bloom them in that culture. Jobs were hard to come by and financial success of most people are unheard of; most people work desk jobs and there are no corporate ladders to climb.In a place like that, it can feel difficult to be yourself because the social support to be different isn’t as available as it is in other areas. At that time, it never crossed my mind that I would own a very successful and wealthy pole dancing supply company and teach mothers, daughters, grandmothers, and men pole dancing across the globe. In my mind, it was never a thought because why would it be? That’s wasn’t possible for me. Who was I? A small town girl, with little to no support, no money, and little education to succeed. And I did succeed – bigger than I EVER dreamed possible and I did it by really being my authentic self at the core.Pole dancing for fitness helped me develop this and opened the door for grandeur and dreams I didn’t have the ability to plan out myself. This miracle can happen to you too, only you will express that miracle in YOUR unique way IF you do one thing, learn to really be you and sing your own unique note in life. When you do this, thoughts and dreams you never thought possible arrive as if by magic. People you need to help you come forward, your life gets bigger, and you suddenly find yourself living your dreams with ease.How can pole dancing help you re-discover your authentic self? It’s right in front of you : )The moment you step onto the dance floor and grab ahold of your pole dancing pole at home, if you listen closely inside yourself, you will find your thought telling you things like “jeez my cellulite gets worse when I squeeze the pole with my thighs”, “I really need to lose weight to be good at this”, “that other girl is so good in class, I feel like an elephant in the room, why can’t I be as good as her, maybe I should quit”, and so on. You have heard that voice, we ALL have it.When the voice starts to talk when you are doing your pole dancing, you must learn to let those things go in order to really enjoy your dancing and learn something new like how to descend gracefully out of a pole spin. The voice will never leave so it’s not about ignoring or denying what you hear, it’s about noticing them, letting them go (even if it’s temporary while you're pole dancing) and allowing your consciousness to shift back to focusing on the joy of what you are practicing, the JOY of the dance.The very act of getting on the pole will automatically bring up every subconscious reason you DON’T feel sexy and that’s a gift. The real reason you don’t feel sexy or love yourself is that you have buried negative points of view about yourself over time and refused to deal with them. Pole dancing for fitness and for the joy of it allows you to deal with the thoughts & feelings you have buried alive. When those thoughts are allowed to leave and you allow yourself to choose a different point of view then you automatically learn more about yourself, who you really are, and what you stand for.This may all sound a little crazy, but it’s has worked for me and it will work for you too. My wish for you is to allow pole dancing to take you somewhere you can’t even fathom yet.The moment you let go of all those negative things buried alive, the moment you stop dancing for approval of others but for your own joy is the moment you start living your life from your authentic self. And when you are your authentic self, you are potent and will automatically know the dreams you wish to live in your own unique way.This emotional growth and development will automatically apply to the rest of your life. It will change how you connect with others, it will change how you interact with your family, it will change how much weight or stock you put in the opinions of others when they say bad things about you.What becomes POSSIBLE for you will change – that’s the gift.You can grow more confident, more relaxed, and live your dreams, all you need to do is allow yourself to be you and stop believing every negative thing you hear about yourself in your head as the permeant truth of who you are today : ) Want to learn more? Here is a wonderful video called "The Art Of Being You" that helps me in times of darkness:

There are two types of powers or currency in this world > Sex and Money. One of the biggest underlying reasons all woman are so driven to feel sexy, have a beautiful body, and be as fit as possible is because of this underlying power that sex gives a woman in this world. We don’t talk about this much, but it’s a VERY important concept to truly understand on a deeper level if you ever really want to feel comfortable and sexy your own skin.During a recent sexual encounter, I was told: “you’re actually comfortable with your body, it’s nice to be with someone who isn’t’ insecure about the way they look”. My response was “well that’s what I do, teach a woman to feel confident and sexy in their body, I would be the world’s biggest hypocrite if I didn’t actually feel that way about myself”. And then I started thinking…… Gee, I never really talk at great length about this with my fans. That was by far the best compliment I have ever received from a man.And THIS IS the most important part of learning to pole dance for fitness. Sure it’s the best workout, sure it’s a lot of fun, sure pole dancing can make your body look toned and fit, HOWEVER, above all that, pole dancing has the power to re-shape the way you ACTUALLY feel about your body when you are naked. It has the power to re-shape your attitude into feeling comfortable in your own skin and a powerful, confident woman - IF you allow it to happen.The reason I haven’t talked about it much is that it’s a sexual topic and feels a bit taboo, especially when I am trying to send a message that pole dancing is for fitness at home and keep things “clean” for the everyday woman. Pole dancing isn’t a trashy stripper thing to me, but there is no denying that it has sexual undertones and influences that really attract women to it, even if it’s a purely subconscious attraction. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel and look your best while you are dancing on your dance pole at home.ALL women are sexual in nature. We all want to feel in control, pampered, cared for, sexy, REALLY SEXY, and confident. We want to make heads turn. It’s the world we live in. The reason sex is a powerful currency is that we all want it. Anything that the majority of people want will cause people to pay for it and flock to it subconsciously and that’s powerful.So where do woman stand to gain and improve knowing about sex as a power?The first steps are to embrace the attitude that it’s ok to be sexual. Allow yourself permission to love your body, even if it’s not perfect because IT’S YOUR BODY. You only have one body and it deserves love, kindness, and tenderness even if it doesn’t look like a perfect supermodel.At some point to really feel comfortable with your body on the inside, you have to strip away those internal thoughts that tell you that you are not sexy right now. For example: if you were to reflect inward and attempt to feel sexy while you are pole dancing, you may hear in your mind that you need to get rid of that cellulite on your thighs and THEN you will be sexy. When this happens, don’t deny that thought, it’s a genuine point of view that you have. The trick is to see that thought, allow it to be a point of view that you have, let it go and remember that you don’t have to believe every thought you have as truth right now.You can still CHOOSE to feel sexy ANYWAY right now, even if your thoughts disagree. Your internal thoughts are not the final decision on how you get to feel about yourself. Learning to hear and see your thoughts, but not necessarily buy into them as the truth in the now moment is a critical practice to master.This takes time. So if you attempt to practice this and end up feeling like it’s not working right away, don’t be surprised.You have believed those negative thoughts in your mind, messages sent in the media, and viewing pictures of supermodels for years. Undoing these subconscious thoughts are a process and practice that will be perfected in time.I didn’t’ wake up and decide I was going to feel sexy and then it just happened. I had to KEEP DECIDING to feel sexy every day. Here is a secret I have NEVER told anybody before.I didn’t get the beautiful body I have now BEFORE I felt sexy on the inside. I got the body of a pole dancer and became toned and sexy AFTER I decided I felt sexy.I honestly feel that the biggest block to actually getting the body of our dreams and actually feeling comfortable in our own skin is our own mind.Once you get through those blocks in your mind, you will find yourself more committed to your workouts and more willing to eat healthier. Your won’t be fighting or pushing yourself anymore. When stop fighting with you on the inside, the perfect dream body just naturally falls into place.Your dream body is a result AND EFFECT of what you think on the inside. Getting a dream body won’t make you feel anymore sexy than you do right now. That’s a lie a culture has duped us into believing as a means to increase profit margins by selling you the next best diet pill or eating plan. I have confirmed this truth in my own pole dancing classes. There have been many beautiful women who come to class and they hate their bodies and appearances just as much as the girl who is 50lbs overweight.It’s time for a change; it’s time to change on the inside FIRST. Your body will come in alignment with that as you shift on the inside.That is my message to you today.That is the message I want you to remember when you are doing your pole dancing workouts.Be beauty now, it’s who you are……..Please remember to share this article, share the social love, and leave me a comment below!

A while back I was researching on the internet about topics to write regarding pole fitness. I feel that sometimes it’s also nice to look around and see what people are actually looking for regarding the topic instead of writing what I think might be a good angle for my business and patrons. (There’s a big difference between giving you what you want and what I think you might want. But I do believe there should also be a balance between the two.)In my search, I stumbled upon an article on The Guardian about pole fitness being the respectable face of pole dancing. Now, this article really caught my attention because not only does it speak about a sport I love, it also speaks about a very controversial issue on the suitability of the dance in mainstream society.Pole fitness has already gained momentum in the fitness industry. Never mind that it has its roots in what people call as “exotic dance.” Classes have been opening up in private studios, community centers or even online so you can do a pole dancing workout at home. Moreover, its celebrity fan base like Carmen Electra, Lindsay Lohan, Emma Watson and Teri Hatcher has women joining classes although men and children as young as 3 are also welcome.A class usually starts with a warm up with stretches similar to the ones used in gymnastics and ballet. It then progresses to climbs, slides, and kicks. The physical demands of pole dancing make it a very intense workout with choreographed routines providing cardio whilst lifts and tricks offer muscle tone.People in the industry especially the International Pole Dancing Fitness Association has really worked hard to revamp pole dancing’s image with a thrust of including pole fitness in the Olympics. However, in spite of its newly found status of respectability a lot of people still see the dance pole as a tool to engage in lechery and that I think is very sad.Although there were a lot of positive comments regarding pole fitness, there were also a number of harsh criticisms one being that the porn industry has managed to wriggle itself to the majority. More than health and fitness, pole fitness dancing has been an instrument of empowerment to women. I know this may be confusing to some especially when it has clearly objectified women for years, but yes, it is enabling. I am a testament to its influence.In my own point of view, pole fitness isn’t just all about being sexy, it is being comfortable in your own skin; learning how to love and accept yourself not just for the aesthetics but also for all those things that make you unique from stretch marks to saddlebags. Furthermore, it changes your outlook by diverting your attention on your insecurities and transforming them to your unique capabilities. This renewed self-confidence in itself is sexy and a healthier and fun way to keep fit.Pole fitness teaches you self-control by holding not just your body in the air but your attitude as well. You also begin to look at other women with greater appreciation; no judgments making you walk taller because you know you are helping build each other up instead of tearing each other down which pervades our social milieu as women. This, in turn, builds stronger and more cohesive friendships among us.I know in any field you do get a share of detractors, pole fitness isn’t any different but I do hope that people can be more forgiving and give the sport a chance. You can get started pole dancing for fitness at home with a dance pole starter kit that includes grip aids, a dance pole, and pole dancing lessons for beginner. Get it Here => Did you like this article or have any questions regarding it? Feel free to leave your comments below! = )