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How are you!!! How are you doing!! People usually ask me whenever I am meeting with them. Well physically I am doing fine but I am emotionally mentally not feeling well.   People are reluctant to understand that Mental Health is a Real important factor for well being. Mental Wellbeing includes our emotional psychological and social wellbeing. It affects our daily life. Being not mentally well affects our choice and decision making.  Mental distress, anxiety, depression all these are REAL not just Medical fantasy Terms. Abusive and discouragement treatment within the family during my childhood are main contributed factors for my mental health issues.  Beating kids or spanking kids is the common socially accepted parenting trait. Parents often admit that they have no other choice but to use force to discipline their kids. Well in my case I was never been demanding spoiled kid. Even today my parents agree on this matter. So why did they beat me!! The answer lies in our competitive school exam systems. Our society is kind of obsessed with school grades, people are literally giving their judgemental remarks about the kids on the base of school grades. Kids often face discriminatory treatment because of school grades. If you have great school grades then people give you special attention and you are like becoming the “Star” “Sun” “Moon” of the neighbourhoods.  If you were poor mediocre student like me who was literally struggling with her studies especially in mathematics in her school days then people gave you pathetic sympathetic look and made you feel guilty. Having poor grades in school is like a Serious crime, it is worse than killing someone. Somehow parents are always linked their social status or prestigious reputation with their kid’s school grades.  They bet on their reputation social status on the kid’s scorecard. Parents easily justify their overly pressured parental tactics on their kids with simple words: we want a bright future for them. From my experience the act of spanking a kid does not simply hurt him physically – it is the emotional sting of it that causes the worst effects. Yess!!  My parents.. my father was often beat me up because of my poor mathematics grades. Mathematics exams were my nightmares. My parents were literally behaving like cruel villains and they were always ready with their beating tools to beat me up if I failed to secure less than 80 percent.  In my middle school (7th grade) my father brutally beat me with his belt and I had so my many bruises in my back.  Result days were like final judgement day. I was literally beaten up every year because of my poor school grades. In  my high school final, I just scored only 66% and my father bluntly told it was better for me if  I commit suicide. I was thinking of committing suicide and tried too. I just wanted to die. And my anxiety disorder symptoms have started from that day. School grades and the rat race among parents are the root cause of the mental stress of every student here in our society. The students suffer from anxiety and traumatic disorder relating to fear of examination. The fear factor is the reason why students suffer from anxiety, depression, and the following consequences. And the fear not only comes from the school society but also from parents, who go to extreme levels to push their children into getting better grades. Every hour, one student commits suicide in India, according to 2015 data (the latest available) from the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB). It’s not at all surprising for me. I had .. I have been going through the same hell like all other students.  Fulfilling the expectations of the parents are kind of huge burden for every student out there.  I never have that moral encouraging support from my parents from the very beginning.. Right now I am doing my specialisation in law and for my father, I am still a hopeless kid. Right now I am taking help from my psychologist to overcome my anxiety disorder. Here even taking help from a psychologist is big TABOO. We need to talk about mental stress and seek help if needed. Mental stress is a serious condition that requires medical help.