is any one else getting a litle bit annoyed by the tendency of fandom to ignore the original traits of the characters involved in a relationship in favor of turning their dynamic into codependent toxic yaoi

I like to imagine that Kevin twitches whenever Neil says something he shouldn't say

something that pisses me off maybe the most about the human ending is that human crowley much more than aziraphale is not himself at all. i get the idea that it's who he was an angel but like.. thats not crowley! (it quite literally is not, we dont even know what his angel name was) idk like the nuance is why i like crowley!! what did you do to my boy who had a kind soft heart but hid it behind layers and layers of walls and fake swagger. who aziraphale got to lovingly and annoyedly break those walls down over 6000 years. this is just some fucking guy it's not crowley

wait yall r acting like transandrophobia is systemic?? i thought transandrophobia and transmisogyny were both just. terms for transphobia against transfems and transmascs in all contexts (like how its misogyny to call a woman a bitch but that isnt gonna like. get her fired and make her lose her house n shit like that) (obviously misogyny IS systemic but the term refers to systemic oppression and also biases that lead to casual opression) (am i making any sense. ive read more transfeminism theory and im glad to hear that most transfems dont actually hate us and want us dead)