#exomemory

[Text: This fictive is struggling to accept their source memories are based off the body’s trauma, please be patient.]

I have used journaling for the past couple of months, read through multiple books on spiritual journaling, and mastered a technique that's helped me with processing exomemories and recording them.

The benefits of Exomemory Journaling

Having a list of proof of memories when you may feel denial

Being able to map out memory timelines as you remember more details and memories over time

Being able to process exotrauma

Being able to map out positive triggers to feel like yourself more

Being able to map out negative triggers related to exotrauma

Validating your own feelings and experiences

Self exploration

Before we go in, it's okay if your memory is vague. It's okay if it doesn't align with canon of any fictional source. These are realities that we have transcended, so our physical brains may not properly translate the code within our souls. There are also so many realities and universes, that the fictional source here might not follow your life 1-1. Don't take it to heart, you are still you, and your life was still real.

First, you want to top this entry off with a date, time, and location. This is pretty standard for journaling, it helps you keep track and have a record

1.Starting Point (Skip this section if you want to retain the details of the memory and can be quite forgetful, come back to it after step 2 instead)

In this section, you want to write down what feelings you felt before this flashback and what feelings you felt during, and the feelings you feel now as you begin writing. Also write down what you were doing beforehand in detail such as where you are, what you were doing, what you were hearing and etc. If this flashback was not discovered through meditation and instead through a random hit of nostalgia, detailing your surroundings might let you find what triggered this flashback. Could have been a lyric to a song, a certain smell in the air, someone you saw might have reminded you of someone etc. These triggers are good to know as they can help align you more with your identity and past life, or maybe map negative triggers you should know about.

2.The Memory Itself

This section is more quoted from a book Journaling for Joy by Joyce Chapman

Close your eyes to get the full perception sense of the visual and sensory details of the memory. Where are you? What are you wearing? What lighting or shadows do you see? What sounds can be heard? What do you smell? Describe your body and how its reacting. Who else is there? What expressions lighten or darken their faces? What do you imagine they might be thinking, what is said? How is this different from or typical of other memories from that life? What is assumed and what goes unquestioned? If possible, does this connect to a period of time/date? What other memories does this connect to?

You want a full, detailed search of this memory to the best of your ability. Trust your gut, you may feel sometimes that you are fabricating some parts of the memory or it may have not went down the exact way you are writing down. That's okay, even if your mind is trying to fill in some spots and make sense of this memory through a translation, the theme around this memory is still real and even if this happened in another way that you can't fully see, it still happened. This is why journaling these memories are important, you may feel vague on the memory now, but later on it might get triggered again and you get the full story. Be patient with yourself.

3.Afterwards

You now have this memory written down to detail to the best of your ability, now let's analyze it using feedback statements. You can start this part with "I now realize that.." or "I learned that.."

What conclusions can you draw from this memory, and during this incident what did you draw from it then as compared to now? How does this memory affect me now?

What does this memory mean to me?

What emotions do I feel as I write these conclusions/questions?

Keep asking questions as they come to you, all the questions you have about this memory. you might not have all the answers now, but as you continue this technique those holes will be filled over time.

In my experience and the experience of many others, writing more has lead me to remembering more, and as I write one memory it may suddenly bring back another and another and another. It's great for self exploration.

A Quick Format

This format is for if you don't bring your journal with you, or are busy, and have a pocket notebook or phone to just jot it down real fast. It's supposed to be quick enough so you can deeply journal on it when you get the time or spoons.

1.What caused this Memory?

2.What was this Memory?

3.How do I feel/What feelings are rising?

4.Details you think are important to remember/write down real quick for later

5.Extra Thoughts about it

Conclusion

Anyways, I hope this helps you guys out as much as it's helped me. Would love to hear your experiences trying this out.

- Vincent Welles

Mod Reaper [Plain text: Mod Reaper]: Thank you for sending us this message, anon. And thank you for your patience.

Please remember that this advice may or may not work for you; you can always adjust it for your own system. We hope some of these can help. 💜

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Accepting factives:

Seeing what they can do for your system - if they can help with homework, trauma, abuse, shitty bosses, giving new skills and perspective, etc., why shun them?

Seeing them as people with inherent worth - you can do it however you'd like, such as imagining them as being from another body/system - if they don't live in our brain, would we shame them?

Making them feel welcome - using their correct names and pronouns, not forcing them to hide their identity, etc.

Putting yourself/yourselves in a respectful space - maybe if you don't hang out in certain forums, servers, etc. that are anti-fact-folks - and you block tags and people who may be judgmental of your experiences - your gatekeeper may be less inclined to hide the factives?

This may not be possible when living in, say, an abusive home, having a busy job, having no internet, etc. - I advise you to make some time when you're physically (relatively) alone and/or undisturbed to focus on internal stuff.

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Internalized shame can have a lot of reasons.

First may be internalized pluralphobia - "the more people you have, the crazier and more broken you are, or, that means you're faking" - I would like to say that faking isn't something that can be done accidentally. It also can't be seen by how many people and what sources the people have in your system. There is also nothing wrong with being "crazy" and "broken" - if it helps you go through life, then, why change yourself to be more palatable? Who benefits from your "sanity"?

Second may be the fear of being "parasocial" to the famous people and harming them. I think there's a misconception, that being affected by an artist in this way is "parasocial", when parasocial relationships are what you do with the source person. Are you harassing them? Are you caring for their well being above yourself/yourselves? It doesn't seem so. I think being affected by people in this way - splitting, being, factive headmates - is not parasocial at all. It is within yourself/yourselves, after all. You're not hurting anyone.

Third may be knowing how the alterhuman community treats fact-folks. That's a huge problem, and can only be tackled by - well, what you wanna do! You want to be open minded and learn more about them. That's a great step.

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There are a few ways to get to know your headmates.

First is to spend more time with them. Front with them to do everyday things. Work. School. House chores. Reading. Writing. Taking care of pets. And so on. You'll be more familiar with their presence and preferences, hopefully.

You may also ask them these questions if it's comfortable for all parties. Take notes of their answers.

What are their favorite foods, drinks, and activities?

What is their fashion sense?

How do they carry the body?

How do the factives feel about the body you live in?

Do they feel their tongue rests differently?

Do they have a different accent?

Do they feel any species or gender dysphoria?

Any phantom limbs?

How do they exhibit symptoms of disability?

Do the exhibits have a difference from the body? From their headmates?

What are their boundaries regarding their source?

Regarding physical touch?

Regarding other things?

And so on.

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Another advice, could be to use ask memes for alterhumans, for plurals, and all that. You can always change the fiction or general terms to what fits their fact-folks needs.

Here are some to start with (we are not affiliated with any of these blogs):

General questions

Questions to get to know your system by winters-repose

Some flora asks by obirains-archive

System ask meme by darkwavepossum-moved

System colour asks by system-asks

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Sourced stuff, geared for finding exomemories

How to get source memories by fictkinhelp

Gateway system asks by navelgazed

Mem Jam Questions by ?

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(Edit 4 July 2026: And here is our ask meme tag! (https://fact-anonymous.tumblr.com/tagged/ask+meme))

i made a little relationship chart for what i remember... there ARE some extra side relationships that i couldnt fit so ill note them down here!!

makoto and yusuke were also dating hifumi

mishima had a HOOORRIBLE crush on me

ann was dating shiho

I was lounging in one of the staff rooms and had Octavius with me. He was just sitting on my chest, and we were talking. I don't really remember what about, but toward the end, I mentioned it was rare to catch him separate from Jedediah. And that as much as I loved them being together, it was nice to talk to them individually too. And that the next night, I should snatch Jed up to talk one on one for a while.

And then we got drowsy, so I took him back to his diorama, and I went back to my exhibit and napped until sunrise.