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...were comic con tickets always this expensive? No way right? Like 20 pounds for Saturday general entry 🙃 Friday 18 pounds

Alright ranty times below bc I always am ranty abt cons I guess bc bleh

Anyway. I dont know what the solution is. Esp. Bc one of my flat mates has still got some interest in coming! I have two proper friends, one who hates London bc of how busy it is so I dont think con is the best place, plus another thata supposed to be coming to London over the break but even thats not confirmed and she might not care... But one of my flatmates is lolita, the other Thai who was a little interested idk anymore, but the lolita one seems to maybe wanna go? Shes a bit ditzy and also badly depressed so its not always easy to hang out w her bc communications hard, and I guess her plan is to stop over in London on her way back to France for the holidays? Idk if this means shed stay at my house over the con weekend? Does that mean shes coming w me there one day/all days? Do I have to babysit her or what and im awkward being a host as it is. I dont think she cares at all for Japanese stuff, anime, manga, games, cosplay,... Anything except some cute things and fashion and princessy and Harry Potter. I mean shes fuckin obsesssed wjth Snape. Im sure shed find smth there but I guess im not gonna press the thing of her coming, if she wants to she can try and idk. I was trying to get a sort of friend in London interested to come, bc the most jittery part is getting there and thatd be so much more fun w someone I like being with, even if while there we split or idk. Buuut she didnt seem interested when I brought it up. I guess I could message her again when im actually considering tickets/when im in London over the break to go for coffee? Idk that could be cool. But then if I have two v different friends itll be bad chaos. Besides, do I wanna go Saturday? Theyve always been crazy and so busy and I guess if im gonna end up not cosplaying and getting over the meetups im not gonna enjoy so much anyway, (heck im finally 19 I could relate to the adults and im uni... It could be different but who knows) then theres no point in Saturday? Unless specitically one of these friends confirms they wanna go the crazy main day? I dont think ive been Sundays, which ykno could be chill to get more art and see the last of it and maybe just sit and enjoy and in case Friday wasnt enough? Friday and Sunday could work, maybe even one on my own and other with a friend? Wild. Anyway. It is kinda sad the whole cosplay thing but I guess its not for me? And idk what ill do over the summer to the bits ive acquired, bc I do have a pair of arm socks and a pair of horns that are kinda... Hmmh. From a friend and id like to not get rid of them but awkward to tote around to my next flat etc. Nor will I like leaving them w my parents in finland... Where theres nothin. Bleh.

#excessive thoughts #im rambling again #this time again about comic con cosplay and meetups #bc those are nervous town for me

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hi greg, can you give me some advice on how to tackle fear and intrusive thoughts? mine are becoming especially uncontrollable and terrifying. it frightens me so much it paralyses me and I can't work. please, I need the help. thank you <3

These thoughts are trying to get your attention. And I think they have it. You just want them to go away and that misses the message they are trying to get to you and so they persist. They are letting you know that something needs your attention. Something needs to heal and to be resolved.

I see excessive thoughts like this. If you stub your toe, it will hurt and be discomforting when you walk. It hurts and it reminds you of what needs to heal. The pain reminds you that you need to take it easy on that foot for now. So, in the same way as the toe hurts as a reminder, your thoughts are there to remind you of what needs to heal. Mentally. What needs to be resolved emotionally. This is also like if a fireman came to the door and said your house is on fire, they are warning you and letting you know that somethings isn’t right. Your house is on fire and to shut the door and ignore the fireman or wish him away is the same as wanting these thoughts to go away without getting the message. So, then, what is the message? What needs to heal? How are these thoughts trying to help you? They are at the point that they disrupt your whole life, because they want you to stop and heal. The same way that fireman would interrupt your dinner and pull you out of the burning house to save you. These thoughts are interrupting your life so that they can help you, just like the fireman would. Try to get a glimpse that they are there to help, they are not nice and not comfortable, but help sometimes is that way. The fireman, dragging you out of your home, would most likely knock over your favorite price of furniture on the way out, because he is trying to save you, he doesn’t care about the furniture you have. So you not doing good at your job because of these thoughts is that furniture, collateral damage, so to speak.

So, what is it that needs to heal? What needs your attention. Investigate. Look. Feel the space in your chest, your heart. Know that these thoughts are just thoughts, just a way your mind functions. Just the way it works. If they are scaring you, that is their way of getting you to pay attention to what needs your attention. Feel your heart and be with yourself and take an honest look, what are you not looking at or avoiding that needs to heal or be resolved. Maybe something from your past. A past you that is still in you and screaming for you to love and heal their pain. Look, feel and try and see. Write, meditate, talk to a close friend or trusted family member and try to get to it. This may take a bit of time and some digging, or it may be very obvious, but look and see. This is my advice.

If you heal what needs to heal and resolve what needs to be resolved. You won’t need those thoughts anymore and they will leave you, naturally. You’ve gotten the message and left the burning house and were saved by those thoughts.

I hope this makes sense and I hope it helps.

~greg

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