One of the unique charms of SM lies not only in the results, but in the process of building the experience together. The ultimate goal of training is to help a submissive grow into someone who can naturally accept and enjoy every act given by their dominant as a form of reward.

Of course, it is not easy to embrace everything with joy from the very beginning. In the early stages, it is common to feel resistance toward acts such as whipping, wax play, spanking, needle play, or even practices like anal training or group participation. However, as time passes, there comes a point when even pain can transform into pleasure simply because it is the will of the dominant. This transformation represents the ideal of submission and marks a stage of true maturity.

Reaching this stage requires more than just repeating physical acts. It is essential to nurture both heart and body over time. By not rushing and instead taking the time to watch each other’s changes, both partners cultivate a bond that becomes stronger, deeper, and filled with trust and affection.

At first, there is a clear distinction between what is easy to accept and what feels difficult. Affectionate gestures such as kissing, sex, cuddling, dates, and shared meals are naturally welcomed, while acts like whipping, wax play, or body modification may feel intimidating. Yet as the relationship deepens and training progresses, these boundaries begin to fade. Eventually, everything that is given by the dominant can be received as a reward.

This is where the true essence of SM lies—not in the destination itself, but in the journey. The process of watching emotional and physical transformation unfold, step by step, brings greater joy and builds a profound sense of connection and intimacy.

30s male Dom based in Republic of Korea Seoul, Gyeonggi, or Gangwon.

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