#enboy

I've spent so many months, years, trying so hard to fit into these categories that I saw so many people talk about as if it were the definitive truth, and this shallow and simplistic vision seems to be gaining a lot of attention and traction here in Brazil. Isn't it ironic to free yourself from cisnormativity and heteronormativity and all these binary boxes to find yourself again trying to fit into other boxes and norms that don't actually describe your experience correctly? Because your experience with gender is so chaotic and confusing (as expected of a nonbinary identity, and even more so if you're neurodivergent too) that there's no simple way to describe it. Then when you find out what describes this, people say you can't identify yourself that way because two or more of your identities are "incompatible". I see people treating non-binarity as if it were an exact science, as if it were math, as if it were something simple and logical, as it is precisely the escape from what has been established in our society as the only two possible options, generating countless identities within a gray area outside this black and white vision, so of course it's something complex, abstract and subjective.

EDIT: One of my reasons for thinking this way was that I ignored that the transgender experience and the cisgender experience aren't and will never be equivalent. It's obvious that a cis man can't be a lesbian, but the same doesn't go for transmasc people, and I thought that admitting that was the same as being transphobic, denying the masculinity of transmascs, denying their male identity. I already had a debate on Twitter because people didn't want to admit that trans men and transmasc people in general can suffer misogyny and male chauvinism (as society can still see and treat us as women) because they also saw it as the same as saying transmasc people are women. The identity of trans people is a very complex experience that involves a series of factors that cis people will never experience. We cannot equate the trans experience with the cis experience.

I thought identifying as a butch lesbian was enough to describe my masculinity, but I realized that I felt like it didn't encompass everything I felt, I still felt like something was missing. Preventing and depriving myself of identifying with more explicit masculine identities was actually making me feel bad and dysphoric. So yeah, I've been avoiding identifying with male-aligned identities because I thought that would mean having to stop identifying as a lesbian, and I didn't want that, and I don't really feel like calling myself straight makes any sense.

The first question they ever asked me about it was 'what do you think about school children identifying as cats and requesting access to litter trays', which is a BAD start comparing being trans and... that, as obviously it has nothing to do with it

Oh and every time I bring up something related to being trans like top surgery (I'm in the very early process of trying to get) they will LEGIT just go silent and not say anything at all and change the subject

Anyway, what I wanted to say was, idk wtf they think nonbinary is but what IRKS me to death is the continued usage of ALL the gendered things, the constant she/her, the continued deadnaming even though they know I changed my name, referring to me as their 'daughter'...

They never ask about any of this stuff. I feel like they just think it's a preference thing for them to choose not to bother with any of it. Like nonbinary is still basically the same to them as being a woman.

Maybe it would make more of a firm statement if I did tell them I was a trans guy, seems like it would be harder for them to pretend to get confused then, but at the same time, if they can't even get this right, me being the whole opposite gender seems a step even further for them to wrap their heads around.

I really wanna just be like 'please stop calling me your daughter' or 'please stop she/her-ing me' or at least like ask me how I feel about it before assuming, given I've very clearly explained to you that I. Am. Not. A. Woman.

Talking of- my mum also called me FUCKING SPIDER WOMAN- when spider man was right there? But no, she literally changed it from what it is actually called, to the female version...

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-Lunarian -Solarian -Non-binary man/Enboy -Menby/Minby -Atrinary -Abinary

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-Xenogender -Maverique -Outherine -Aporagender -Stellarian

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I support equality always

Gender and sex are spectrums

Nobody chooses their sex or gender

Intersex people exist

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Attraction is individual, not societal

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