It's one of the most frightening things to do is confront people you want to be with. Knowing when, how and where to put your foot down is important. We ignore our instincts when something is wrong, we close our eyes and hope it will go away or get better. All because we don't want to lose the one we want. But what if in doing so you are no longer what they want? Being desperate and clingy is turn of for anyone, no matter how one romanticizes it. He doesn't meet you emotionally, he neglects you financially and he abuses you mentally and fails you spiritually yet you hold on to the hurt, because you are tired of starting afresh, because because you're sick of failing again and again, so you settle for less. Less than you deserve, but it's cause you don't know your worth, you don't truly believe that you deserve the best, you fear the best won't want you. But guess what the worse person for you doesn't really want you either. They probably, don't feel they deserve the best either so they are settling for you and that's a horrible unspoken contract. How can both of you be happy together or make each other happy? Setting up healthy barriers means knowing yourself enough to know what you can tolerate and accept and at what pace you can go. That means things he does and says around you. If he thinks well of you, he won't disrespect you. If you're a certain type of way, be with someone who understands or tries to understand and meets you half way, and is more than wiling and prepared to go all the way for you. The one who is right for you would know to give you what you need or at least ask and try because he knows you are worth it #donotsettleforless #donottoleratedisrespect #donotacceptneglect
