what nonphannies donβt understand is that it isnβt about βknowingβ itβs about dnpβs queer joy and comfort level. weβre not happy bc they told us, weβre happy bc they felt comfortable and joyful enough to tell us. βknowingβ has a weird power connotation. If you βknewβ all along youβre trying to establish power over information that you donβt have authority on, and it takes power away from the people (dnp) telling you the information.











