isn't it always important to demand proof? you can't just be accepting things as fact with no evidence. how can you tell if you're demanding excessive proof?

In regards to your list of red flags: there is another one I've noticed in the last ten years or so which involves people bringing up complaints about some manner of bigotry (racism, transphobia, sexism. the more important the better) and then when people start trying to get to the bottom of the problem and address the concerns, the person who brought up the issue dismisses all attempts to fix or explain the problem as focusing on the details instead of the wider issue of racism, etc... which there is no known way to fix through a fandom discord server. And you slowly start to realize that fixing it isn't even the person's goal. When you really get down to it, the person is dismissing all proposed solutions because the actual main thing they're upset about is that too many people are writing about another topic or character they don't like and they've found over time that this is an easy way to control the conversation and get people to comply out of guilt. maybe you could add it to the list if you get the time? I find it very frustrating because it makes it harder to have meaningful discussions about important issues.