#disabilty

I've learned that no actually, people wouldn't care. Katelyn Weinstein (theADHDprincess on Twitter) is a neurodiversity acceptance activist who really put this in perspective for me. She said that it's actually more an issue of longevity than physical vs mental health.

If you're having a bad day people will generally be understanding. But when you're experiencing chronic depression and you have many bad days people lose sympathy.

In the same respect people may be understanding when you've broken a bone that will heal properly or when you have a cold that will go away soon in ways they simply won't understand when you have chronic pain or need to use a wheelchair. They may send chicken soup for a temporary situation, but when you need consistent accomodations it's an entirely different story.

I understand that from our perspective it looks like people care more about physical health than mental health, but it's good to remember that our own perspective is also limiting. Facing ableism doesn't mean you can't be ableist. And I know so many people are not ill-intentioned when they say this. I know I wasn't. But we can't discount the lived experiences of physically disabled people. If we want true equality we need to be united and we need to listen to those with physical disabilities and illnesses. And those with physical disabilities and illnesses (some of which are also invisible) have said that they are not given proper accomodations either.

Want to watch a new movie? Pay a bajillion dollars to go see it at the cinema! Can’t afford or physically go to a cinema? Pay a bajillion dollars for 5 different streaming services all WITH ads!

Want to go see a play or musical? FLY TO NEW YORK CITY! Can’t do that? Either pay for a streaming service on the rare occasion that its record. It’s not? Cry.

Want to see a sports game? Pay a bajillion dollars to see it live. Can’t do that? Buy five different streaming services that sometimes don’t even show the games!

Want to read a book? Go buy it!

Robert: Look can you just focus? What, you got ADHD or something?

Invisigal: Yes, fucker! Is it that obvious?

And just. The way Robert asks is a frustrated expression. It feels like he's talking about "adhd or something" in the "adhd as oh look no focus" way, the sort of sanitized version that we see a lot of passed around on social media, rather than the serious disability.

some v self indulgent headcannons about Jack dating someone chronically ill💕 (divider by @cafekitsune)

Jack is obviously a disabled man himself so he is the most understanding about your condition. He will go to every length to understand your diagnoses and/or symptoms, and will do his best understand how you're feeling, even past the clinical symptoms/his medical knowledge.

Mobility aids? He will never judge you, love you and think you're smoking hot no matter what mobility aids—wheelchair, he's pushing you so you don't have to do a thing; crutches, they rest by your shared bed next to his pair—whatever you need, he's 100% onboard (and WILL pay for the nicest model in your favourite colour to replace your mobility aids).

Flare days? He's doing everything he possibly can. He's helping you through the day even when he's dead-on-his-feet tired from a night shift. You can nap and cuddle with him while he sleeps his shift off.

Being medically invalidated? Jack is pulling favours with his doctor contacts to get you to the best specialists as we speak. His amazing reputation in the medical community has you at the best doctors in the country as fast as he can possibly get you there, no lengthy referral process needed. If the doctor you're speaking with is invalidating or gaslighting you, you bet he's using his title as a Doctor to question them so harshly they're sweating under his gaze (you may never be coming back but Jack wants you to feel like something is being done).

Insurance claim denied? He's paying the bill before you can get a word out to protest. He will also be marrying you as soon as your relationship is ready for it to get you on his cushy attending insurance plan.

Appointments? He's going with you to every single one. He works nights so his day is wide open for you (as long as he chugs a Red Bull). He's meticulously organizing a medical binder for you, keeping track of all the test results, and making sure you're comfortable getting to every appointment (he bought a very nice Mercedes to drive you in). 

Procedure? Most of them are probably at PTMC, where he knows and trusts the doctors. Wherever you are, he'll be there scrutinizing every step to make sure they're doing it properly. If it's a surgical procedure, he's pulling favours to scrub in to supervise. Jack will be there every step to comfort you, and will get you your favourite sweet treat after.

Jack will be the absolute best partner. He's leaving special notes on the mirror telling you how strong you are, making sure all your favorite foods are in the fridge, and paying for every streaming service so you have endless options to watch while on the couch. He's using all his power, reputation, and money as an attending doctor to make sure you are getting the best care and are as comfortable as he can make you.