#desirdae tips

I'm not able to find a coining post or anyone talking about the specific lists of beliefs, and I only remember one from a screenshot I saw maybe two or three days ago:

only supportive of some transids. Trace, trans abled, and I believe transharmful labels were not supported

I BELIEVE it was also anti contact and anti people who are pro/neu contact for contact-harmful paraphilias

I /do/ remember that the term really did just seem to me to be radinclusive with extra steps, so I was hoping maybe we could start up a conversation about this

Now as I've said, the community seemed to have gone back on the term immediately, but, as radinclusives, what are our opinions on the critical radqueer idea?

Obviously I understand that's a hard question to ask because I have you like two points, but, if the idea of a "critical radqueer" is essentially just a radinclusive who calls themself radqueer, or something very similar, how do we feel about them? And bigger, should we as radinclusives and anti radqueers start pushing out terms towards that community to try to pull people out of it?

Personally, I think it's important to note that even if most radqueers didnt like or support of the term, someone coined it. Someone felt the need to coin a term that basically meant radinclusive, likely because they felt uncomfortable with the community they were around. I know I felt that way when I was in that community. And I think that slowly, surely, if more terms pop up that can work as bridges between radqueers that don't like that community and those of us who are radinclusive, we might be able to get more people out safely.

ofc, here you go:

♡ buy wings off of amazon or etsy, or from halloween stores- wings on etsy can be very expensive so keep that in mind, but etsy is your best option if you want larger wings. if you buy from etsy i recommend the shop macwings! we've purchased wings from there before and they have a lot of different kinds :3

♡ write/draw/roleplay about yourself having wings

♡ close your eyes and imagine having wings! really focus on what your wings feel like and the feeling of flapping them or stretching them out, think about touching stuff with your wings and all. this sounds silly but it really does help for some other desirwings people i know!

♡ play video games where you have wings

Make a discord server (or other community) with either friends or people who may have interest in being a follower. You can set this community up "like a church" with different levels of followers and even other deities. It could be a "roleplay your desirdentity" place, where to get in, they have to roleplay with you as their god. Or something much more specific to you if you have friends willing to do that for you

^ You can do the same, but all of the roles can joking. People who are the most in on it can "jokingly" call you the server god. Like a big inside joke

Make a social media account for it. If you can market yourself right, you can find people who will follow you like worshippers

possibly controversial, but I don't find fults and neoreligions to be inherently harmful. Don't promote harm, be explicitly against harm and dont take things too far and thats a valid option

Look into manifestation and other spitiual things like shifting. Not as big on being worshipped specifically, but it will make you believe in your power if its something you decide to do

Make a tumblr blog that offers a service that is themed around the worship of you. The your "followers" could "pray" for a "blessing" from you, the prayer being in the form of an ask in the ay you ask them to send in and the blessing being things like stimboards or flag coinings or whatever you're able to do

As always. Creation. Write, draw, roleplay, whatever works best for you.

This is not something I am entirely sure on the ethics of. There's a lot of nuance in what can be done especially because I do not know what your desired weight is and or what your body is able to handle.

Here's what I can come up with off the top of my head

• layer your clothes if you are comfortable with that

• Depending on what's possible and your body type, wear clothes that are a little tight on you

• Keep lots of things or heavy things in your pockets

• Exercising can make your body feel heavier afterwards

• Be sure to eat healthy!!

• Allow yourself to get tired and take breaks

• Spend time watching plus sized creators, listen to their community, speak up when you can

The following are mostly just tips on remembering things, things and advices we've heard as an actor. While they're good for general rememberings, I'm not sure how well they'd do as something like combating amnesia

Write things down (don't type your notes, physically write them down)

Repeat things. Often. (Like the I Can Remember! girl)

Keep one place where all of your important things and notes to self are (I use a private discord server. With channels like notes to self(/ves), our to do list, imermediate changes and updates, etc)

Do certain movements while trying to learning and remembering your thing (Activate muscle memory)

Do things that don't require a lot of thought (like easy mobile games) while listening to the thing you want to remember

Put music to the things you know you're going to need to remember

Connect your memories to things you enjoy

*Bonus* While this doesn't affect your memory entirely. If you wear/use a specific assortment of jackets, pants, bags, etc, but multiple of item (Such as sticks of gum, chapstick, whaterver that thing is you may need (dont put sticks of gum in your pants tho) and keep one in each thing. That way you wont need to remember to grab your chapstick or a pencil each time you go out

Sorry about the wait, we were sick

Desircybully hasn't been coined yet ! I'll coin it in the future

!! It's very important to note that negative things said online can affect people outside of your circle ! I don't recommend something like cyberbullying friends who are okay with that even jokingly because othwrs can and will see it and be hurt by it.

Along with that, thinking negative things often can lead you to be a more negative person !

Under no circumstances should you transition to become a cyberbully. here are some tips that can hopefully help lesson the urge to hurt the feelings of others

• Using Twinote to "Post" your private thoughts. Funsta or any other fake social media app could also work for this

• Create a private alt or sideblog where you can send yourself hate mail

• Create a cyberbully OC and use them in storylines

• Instead of hitting "post" or "send ask", draft or copy your message to your notes app. After a few weeks, or months if needbe, ask yourself if that message is still worth sending. If it is, keep it in your notes until it's not, and when it's not, throw it out

• Send people you like aggressive positivity

• Block words and tags that you know trigger you

• Write down your negative statements, do something to ruin the paper, and then recycle it somehow

• Use character(dot)ai or similar to bully them instead

Select "Prefer not to say" on any forms

Leave race out of introductions and bios

When speaking about racism you may have experienced, keep it general (instead of saying "I experienced" say "some or many experience")

Don't use racial slurs even if you can reclaim them

Recognize that you can still identify with nationality and ethnicity, and figure out what you want your relationship with them to be

Be sure to uplift others

-> Using a name that feels cryptic, is unnatural/rare or hard or confusing to pronounce

-> Cryptic pronouns, it/its pronouns, or no pronouns at all

-> Keep a water bottle that can't be seen through or can only be seen through in one specific area . Drink flavored water and juices from it until you become known as someone who has not water in their water bottle (then you can drink water from it if you prefer)

-> Dark colors. Greens, blacks, red, blues. Wear them

-> If you're able to get tattoos or other body mods, those can be helpful

-> ^ if not, some body mods can be faked. Drawing instead of tattooing, buying fake piercing jewelry etc

-> Conlangs and made up writing systems. Especially if you write on covers and modify clothing with them

-> Be one with nature